Suiyobi Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 ...that'll help me evaluate myself, which could give me a better understanding of why I'm actually a likable person despite the fact that I'm introverted, simple-minded, laid-back, and average-looking. No, I'm not "emo" nor am I calling out for pity and validation, but I'm genuinely curious as to why people (and girls especially) still like to hang out with me. Not that I'm complaining, of course, but just curious...
Mary3 Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 How old are you ? Have you ever had a real gf ? Do most girls just want to be your friend only ? Tell us more .
Author Suiyobi Posted October 29, 2008 Author Posted October 29, 2008 How old are you ? Have you ever had a real gf ? Do most girls just want to be your friend only ? Tell us more . I'm on my early 20's, I've had one long term relationship with a girl, the others were short term. Currently, I'm single. The girl that I was interested in earlier this year couldn't return the feelings, which was fine since I realized she and I wouldn't have been compatible, but regardless she still wants to hang out with me. Same deal with other girls that I know, still keeping in touch with me. Oh and I'm not gay if the thought ever crossed anyone's mind, lol. But yeah... it's weird, I would think I'm the most boring person in the world to be around with yet I seem to get a lot of invites... Edit: Oh, I should add that I'm not a doormat. I know when to say no but generally speaking I'm pretty cool with a lot of things so I just go with the flow. I guess I can hold up on my own when it comes to conversations but talking isn't one of my favorite things to do so I generally stay quiet. I let the others do the talking by asking them questions and maybe throwing a comment/compliment here and there. I also consider myself a jack-of-all-trades, good at lots of things but master of none. Kinda helps to get by in life but not enough to really woo anyone lol. In the end, I'm pretty basic so I don't see how what I'm doing would make anyone think I'm interesting to be around with.
Mary3 Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 I'm on my early 20's, I've had one long term relationship with a girl, the others were short term. Currently, I'm single. The girl that I was interested in earlier this year couldn't return the feelings, which was fine since I realized she and I wouldn't have been compatible, but regardless she still wants to hang out with me. Same deal with other girls that I know, still keeping in touch with me. Oh and I'm not gay if the thought ever crossed anyone's mind, lol. But yeah... it's weird, I would think I'm the most boring person in the world to be around with yet I seem to get a lot of invites... Edit: Oh, I should add that I'm not a doormat. I know when to say no but generally speaking I'm pretty cool with a lot of things so I just go with the flow. I guess I can hold up on my own when it comes to conversations but talking isn't one of my favorite things to do so I generally stay quiet. I let the others do the talking by asking them questions and maybe throwing a comment/compliment here and there. I also consider myself a jack-of-all-trades, good at lots of things but master of none. Kinda helps to get by in life but not enough to really woo anyone lol. In the end, I'm pretty basic so I don't see how what I'm doing would make anyone think I'm interesting to be around with. Would you say you are very shy ? Would you say you are somewhat attractive ? Unattractive ? Do girls check you out when you walk by ?
Author Suiyobi Posted October 29, 2008 Author Posted October 29, 2008 Would you say you are very shy ? Would you say you are somewhat attractive ? Unattractive ? Do girls check you out when you walk by ? I'm self-conscious to a certain degree (then again, I think most people are) but I wouldn't say I'm shy. Introverted is probably the best way to describe me, meaning that I prefer to stay quiet but have no problems speaking up when I need to. Not to brag but I can be a class clown if I'm in the mood as well. As far as attractive level is concerned, I don't know... I'm Asian and I know that there's a growing minority of girls who find Asians attractive, so it kinda helps. From a scale of 1 to 10 (with 10 being the most attractive) I'd say I'm a -6- on that level. But I'm cool with how I look so it's not like I have low self-esteem, either. Girls checking me out when I walk by? Has happened several times (to say the least) although friends had to point them out to me since apparently I wasn't keen enough to notice myself.
SoulSearch_CO Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 Could be because you listen rather than do all the talking. Girls tend to like that. Especially since you are doing ACTIVE listening (you're really hearing what the other person is saying because you're able to comment and urge them to continue).
Author Suiyobi Posted October 31, 2008 Author Posted October 31, 2008 Could be because you listen rather than do all the talking. Girls tend to like that. Especially since you are doing ACTIVE listening (you're really hearing what the other person is saying because you're able to comment and urge them to continue). Hmm... never thought about that but you know that could be one of the reasons why.
Mary3 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 I find asian men attractive and have gone out with all kinds , vietnemese , chinese , philipino.. The one thing thats a downer is most asian men are not oral......sigh....
Author Suiyobi Posted November 1, 2008 Author Posted November 1, 2008 Heh, I'm one of three "kinds" of Asians you've mentioned. Not sure what's up with the Asian men not being interested in oral but it's probably just the ones that you've hooked up with. In any case, I'm open to try things lol. Anyway, on a slightly different subject, so far things have been looking rather bleak lately as far as my romantic relationships are concerned but I guess I can't force these things.
Mary3 Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 Heh, I'm one of three "kinds" of Asians you've mentioned. Not sure what's up with the Asian men not being interested in oral but it's probably just the ones that you've hooked up with. In any case, I'm open to try things lol. Anyway, on a slightly different subject, so far things have been looking rather bleak lately as far as my romantic relationships are concerned but I guess I can't force these things. Perhaps you can privately message me your myspace page and I can give you some tips on how to make the girls swwoooon
Author Suiyobi Posted November 3, 2008 Author Posted November 3, 2008 Perhaps you can privately message me your myspace page and I can give you some tips on how to make the girls swwoooon Eh, trying to keep myself as anonymous as possible (no offense) so... yeah. But hey, feel free to PM me here at any time. I'm open to ideas.
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