jimbo Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 OK, I'm meeting this girl for drinks on Fri. Can some people give me some topics to talk about? Three's a charm... Maybe?
likestolaugh Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 ...and so then, how much have you talked to her so far?
Art_Critic Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 You could talk about dating nightmares created by people you met from match Just be yourself.. make sure you bring your humor with you. Talk about your family..ask her about hers.. that kinda stuff.. each date is different and you will talk about different things with each date so just go with the flow and you will do fine...
2sunny Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 keep it simple. maybe where she's been on vacation and where she lives, what she likes to do in her free time, areas of interest. with each answer she gives - you can ask for further info regarding each area depending on the info she gives out. either way, this should keep the conversation moving without controversial topics being brought up. it also gives you a clue as to what she may enjoy doing if you want to ask her out again.
Author jimbo Posted October 29, 2008 Author Posted October 29, 2008 We've been e-mailing back and forth for the last week. She'd rather meet up for a drink rather than speak on the tel.
Okeydokey Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 I would suggest the following generic topics if you need to get the ball rolling: - Have you read any good books recently? - What was the last trip that you took? And do you have any trips planned that are coming up? - Have you been following the elections much? (I know... politics... but still... you can keep it vague... and discuss how it is interesting that this cycle is so different from the others). - How long has she been living in your town? Where did she grow up? What does she like about this town? Is she thinking about staying long term? Where would she like to live in the perfect world and why? - Has she stayed in touch with a lot of her friends from when she was younger? Ask about her closest friends... what are they like? - Where does she work? What is her work like? What is a normal day for her like? Does she enjoy her position? What does she hope to do next professionally? - Tell her a story about something that happened to you this week - preferably something that is funny.
Author jimbo Posted October 29, 2008 Author Posted October 29, 2008 I just got her tel no. in an e-mail. Should I also call a few hours before the meet to confirm, or does that look strange? We've never spoke over the tel though.
Okeydokey Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 If you suggested the location and you are using cell phones, I would text message her a note when you leave the house to let her know that you are on your way there and that she should give you a call if she has any trouble finding it. But, since you guys haven't actually met in person yet, it might come across a bit over-eager or insecure that she might not show up... even though in reality it is just something that you are doing to be thoughtful. So, I guess calling a land line a couple hours before might be too much, but sending a text is sort of casual and just you being considerate. my thoughts.
Author jimbo Posted October 29, 2008 Author Posted October 29, 2008 Actually, meeting from work. She's a couple of years older than me, so I am assuming I will not have the games from what I had experienced in previous encounters with other women. Though, I also do not want to appear childish, immature or nervous. Then again, I am not looking to sleep with her the first night either. Which brings up another question. Should I offer to drive her home, or is that too forward? She'd probably be taking the subway or a taxi home. Then again, it might put me in an awkward position of kissing her good night. It seems easier to do, at least for me, out of a car than in one. I always seem to screw things up in cars.. However, if I do not offer, does it make me look bad? I think I got myself into another catch-22 situation even before it started..
Okeydokey Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 hmmm. that is a really tricky one. i would say don't bring up how she is planning on getting home before the date... believe me, she will have a return home plan in mind before the date in case she doesn't want to spend time in the car together afterwards. i would say if the date is a trainwreck, don't offer. she will have a plan and offering will only make things more uncomfortable to deal with. if the date goes well, i would just say flat out "do you have a plan for getting home, i know you have a long way to go and i can give you a ride." and then if she says "oh no, its ok, i was already planning on taking a cab or i like riding the subway at night." i would just say "ok, its whatever you prefer, as long as you feel safe taking the subway or as long as you don't mind the cab." that last part is to make the point that it is just a ride.
Author jimbo Posted October 29, 2008 Author Posted October 29, 2008 Was thinking the same. Any tips I should look for too see if she is having a good time? The last date with another girl two weeks ago we were laughing and smiling for three hours over the meal. After the second date, never returned my call. I'd rather not have another disaster like that. Especially, when I do not know what is/was up.
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