teamzissou00 Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 Little background info, i'm twenty and a sophmore in college. I started talking to one of my friend's best friends on AIM, who lives in my friends hometown, so we've never met in person. I started out telling her how hot she was, kind of as an ongoing joke, but after awhile we started talking a decent amount. She gave me her number, and we began texting each other a few times a day, kind of flirting around and stuff. She seemed to be into talking to me. She would often initiate the conversation and send me texts from work or class or whatever. After a few weeks we started talking on the phone. At this point I started to become pretty into her. Yeah we've never met so it's a little lame, but she's funny, cute, and just seems like a strong person in general. She invited me to come to her place last week for a party, but I wasn't able to go. We've continued talking though, but lately I have been coming off a little strong, telling her she's amazing and cute and all that, probably too much. I don't know a ton about women, but I know they start to lose interest if you put them on a pedestal or get overly complimentary. Lately she's been talking to me less and less, talking longer to respond and not initiating conversation. I've completely stopped trying to text or call her for the time being, hoping she'll start to miss talking to me and not think i'm overly into her and all that. So my question is, how can I fix that mistake, if it isn't already too late? I'm planning on not initiating conversation at all for a few days at the very least. If she doesn't call/text me, is there any thing i can do or say over the phone to get her somewhat interested again? I have a date with another girl for this weekend, so i'm not desperate or anything. I was just REALLY looking foward to meeting this girl.
Author teamzissou00 Posted October 28, 2008 Author Posted October 28, 2008 You could try asking her out. I would have done that weeks ago, but she lives like 3 1/2 hours away and is at school. I can't ask her to drive up here. I asked if I could go there in two weekends (the first chance I have), after I realized she was starting to get turned off, and she said sure, she just doesn't seem too excited about it anymore. I'm worried she'll totally lose interested by the time I can go and change her mind. My question is, i guess, is there anything I can do to re-ignite the interest if she doesn't call/text me after a few days?
tanbark813 Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 I would have done that weeks ago, but she lives like 3 1/2 hours away and is at school. I can't ask her to drive up here. Why the hell not? Her asking you to drive that distance implies she'd be willing to do the same. And if she isn't willing to drive that far then why would you bother pursuing something with her anyway?
jason83 Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 First thing I would say is careful not to get too into this too soon. It's great talking to someone and getting to know them but be careful not to build her into more than she is...because you really don't know her that well at all, especially since you haven't met. That aside, I would say let it sit for a bit. If she ends up asking why you haven't talked to her just say you've been really busy. As i gets closer to the weekend that you're supposed to go down there, maybe text her or call her and say "Hey, haven't talked to you in a while....I thought maybe we could meet up if you want while I have some free time". This gives her the option without you seeming too into anything. My 2 cents for what it's worth...
jason83 Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 Why the hell not? Her asking you to drive that distance implies she'd be willing to do the same. And if she isn't willing to drive that far then why would you bother pursuing something with her anyway? BTW I completely agree!! Why not meet halfway? That's a fair compromise
Author teamzissou00 Posted October 28, 2008 Author Posted October 28, 2008 Thanks for the replies Tan and Jason. The reason I asked to go there is because it seems a little sketch to ask a girl i've never met to meet me someplace she doesn't feel comfortable. Yeah, i'm a little whipped by taking the drive, but I guess it's worth it to not make her feel weird.
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