tanbark813 Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 Tanbark, I respect you, and your humor and logic, I DO... ask WWIU... but do you have a son? AND if that son of yours was 9??? how would you want him to be? Watching porn or saying "Hey Pops, look at these chicks tits?" 9 years old is 9 years old and they are BOYS No, I don't have kids and, yeah, if I did my opinion might be different. But to clarify, I'm not saying it's okay that the kid makes those comments, I'm saying that it's not surprising and I'd call it normal. Boys will be boys.
stampdaddy Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 No, I don't have kids and, yeah, if I did my opinion might be different. But to clarify, I'm not saying it's okay that the kid makes those comments, I'm saying that it's not surprising and I'd call it normal. Boys will be boys. Of course, I can't remember my first year I started to look at the JCPenny bra collection OR my Grandfather's "naked lady playing cards", BUT, MY SON IS MY SON.... and 9 is too young to "introduce"
tanbark813 Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 9 is too young to "introduce" I agree. But the OP's question was: Is it normal for a 9 year old boy to suddenly be so interested in admiring women in skimpy underwear?? And I'm just saying that I think developing an interest at that age is normal. I'm not saying the dad should buy him a bunch of Hustler dvd's.
Author lexi29 Posted October 30, 2008 Author Posted October 30, 2008 Thank your for your responses. I agree that a 9 year old shouldn't be introduced to porn or sex or anything. As far as the court taking him away from his mother because her boyfriend let him watch porn when he was five, all we have is hearsay. He came home from his mom's one day and said to both of us (and this was when we were first dating) that (mom's boyfriend) was watching a movie where a guy put his pee pee in this lady's mouth. So I don't know if he just walked in on his mom's boyfriend watching this movie or if he was invited to watch it. My fiance said something to his son's mom and she denied it ever happened. The judge in the custody case (a few years later) said there was no proof of this. I did have an interesting idea thought today. It is possible that his MOM was talking like this and he heard her and is repeating things that she says. I have seen her myspace page (its not private) and she claims she is bisexual and has all these pictures and comments about half naked women on it. She also lists that she likes to make porn movies starring herself. OOKK... He wasn't afraid to watch the beauty pagent with his dad because he has seen and heard his dad make comments about women on tv many times (saying they are hot or nice looking) and he's heard his dad tell me I look hot if I have short shorts or recently he said I looked really hot in a pair of sweat pants and flip flops. So he knows his dad makes those comments (but never "nice jugs" or anything referring to breasts) about women. I know my fiance watched some of the Miss USA pagent this year and I don't think his son paid much attention to it but he probably thought the Hooters pagent was the same thing (it was on regular channels). I have heard him say that (we went to a rodeo and there was a 13 year old girl wearing a flashy gold costume and standing on a horse while it ran in a circle (trick rider) and his son said "wow she's hot" and when we were at this rodeo him and his 7 year old cousin were checking out girls (teenage girls) and saying "she's hot, I like her hair etc" the whole time and we all thought it was funny. I don't think they are aware there is anything sexual about it (they weren't commenting on body parts) they were just admiring good looking girls. I have tried to teach him that if he thinks a girl is attractive he should refer to her as "pretty" instead of "hot". Even when he was in 2nd grade he and his friends had an interest in girls (guess they are not yucky anymore) There was a very pretty girl in his class that he had a crush on last year. Also his friend who was ten last year had a "girlfriend" in his class and her mother encouraged this!!! I remember not being interested in boys until I was 13 and I was a late bloomer as my cousin (same age as me) started "dating" when she was in 5th grade!! (a year older than my soon to be step son) Now there was no sex involved (and this was in the late 80's early 90's) but they did kiss and hold hands and hang out at each other's houses. I didn't even kiss anyone till I was 15 but I had crushes on boys when I was only 11 or so. And nowadays I know that some girls as young as 11 are going to "rainbow parties". I think thats what they are called when a group of boys get bjs from various girls at a party. Any suggestions on how to teach him to respect women and not make comments on their body parts like that?
2sunny Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 lexi - you are still missing the point! LET HIS DAD DO IT! why is it your job to try to fix EVERYTHING in this family? geeez. stay out of it.
Mary3 Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 I think the boys MOM is a little too * out there * with her open sexuality , naughty pictures on MySpace , which is not a private page and should BE set , knowing the son ( the 9 year old ) can go to her page . I think the boy is way over exposed to a world he does not belong in. Let kids be kids. Let them play. Don't overstimulate them with naked pics and such. It seems to me the mom is the root of some of the problem, I STILL say a NORMAL 9 year old is NOT exposed to this stuff ! I say , this particular 9 year old is exposed to ALOT . I can bet he has computer acesss. If he does , he likely sees a eyeful . The discrepency of whether he viewed porn at a young age ( or now ) still a young age, we may never fully know. But now that he has been stimulated its going to be hard to tout , go outside and play , because now play could involve sexual things. I think the Mom and the grandfather and the lot of them are sexually overcharging the child in his / former / present environment. I have yet to hear a 9 year old say " Wow she's hot " Whats wrong with that picture ? I say again at 9 , most kids are not thinking about female body parts and that they are hot babes, that kind of thing. Fastforward to 12 years old and yes I would expect it more.
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