beyondsad Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 This is my second week on zoloft and I can not tell you how much better I feel. It has been 7 weeks since discovering the EA and the first 5 weeks were hell- not being able to control my emotions and trying to still mainitain work , kids and home life was almost unbearable . My H has made alot of effort to comfort me and try to express his sorrow for what he did but I was so emotional before that he just could not comfort me. Since taking the zoloft I am able to concentrate and not feel like I have to talk about it 24/7. I am able to feel actually at peace with myself. I NEVER thought I would need an anti-depres, and i thought I could HANDLE everything myself but I am glad I tried it. No I will never forget what he did, I will continue to check up on him probably forever but it is not a all consuming to me now. i was so doughtful of our R but now I actually think it is possible. Thanks for all your imput when I was crazy!
quankanne Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 i thought I could HANDLE everything myself *raises hand* yep, I went through something similar 5 years ago when both my mom and MiL were dying ... worked full-time, was driving down to South Texas to be with my mother every couple of weeks the last six months, was trying to "keep it together" for my husband. And thought I was going blind on top of that – you'd think I'd have gotten better frames for my glasses so that the eyepiece wouldn't keep popping out ... I kept readjusting (improperly) and never realized what the problem was until I got new glasses :laugh: thank God for the doctor who was able to look at me and say, "Girl, you need to stop trying to fix it all, and stop holding it all inside. Meanwhile, we're gonna start you on Wellbutrin to help with the stress" ... am sorry it was an affair in your case, but I'm a firm believer that when two people put their mind to heal a relationship, the sky is the limit. good luck! q
Amybeth Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 From my experience you may be on a roller coaster ride for a while. Even when I thought I was doing better something would remind me of the affair and I would be right back to feeling horrible. Just know, I think, that the time between those bad feelings get longer
Author beyondsad Posted October 29, 2008 Author Posted October 29, 2008 I still think about the OW daily and how he could have betrayed me but I don't dwell on it. My H is being so good to me and trying so hard to show me how much he loves me. Our relationship in a weird way is even better. We have never really talked about our relationship. I always thought we would just grow old together. Now he tells me how much he loves me calls me gets me flowers and makes me feel special. I still hate the OW and want to beat her ass but I am not obsessing on it (thnks zoloft). We live in the same town and it is just a matter of time that we have a face to face. When the time comes I hope I can think of something witty to say and just laugh at her for being so stupid for thinking he would leave me for her! Any sugestions on something witty to say?
2sure Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 I wouldnt speak at all, just acknowlege that you have seen her, and as you are moving on - laugh out loud, as if you were amused by a private joke. She will NEVER figure this out but will always know you laughed AT her. Done in the right way, with amusement and sincerity, this works great.
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