Funkymonkey Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 Hello to everyone new member here. I need help with a girl. I don't know what the f**k I'm supposed to do. I'm 18, just graduated from high school, got a job at a restaurant, met a girl who works there. Anyways I was working 1 sunday night, when this relatively attractive girl walks in, i'm just standing on the side thinking eh well, another hot customer, until she walks in back to the office, which tells me she works here. So were making like eye contact and stuff, im trying to ignore her but like we just keep making eye contact untill you know you just have to go and introduce yourself. So I go over there, she seems to remember my name from when I called her to cover one of my shifts, don't know how she knew my name but she did. Anyways we meet, she leaves end of story for me. Skip to like 2 weeks after that, I somehow get schedualed for a shift on a friday night, and we end up working together, I can totally tell she was into me, she was giving off all the obvious signs, constantly touching me, tickling me, hooking on to my arm and trying to drag me places, laughing at most things I say, and what gave it away was that I could tell she was trying really really hard to figure out stuff to say to me, in other words she was intimidated I could tell and she made it awkward for herself and me. And like at the end of that shift, I decide eh why not ask her to hang out one day. So at the end of the shift I was like hey ***** what are you doing saturday night, lets hang out! She tells me that she has this girls night out thing and she was like, "Yeah, let me think about it." I was like eh okay, so like skip to the end of that shift when shes about to leave, i'm on the otherside of the restaurant cleaning up a table and I could see her looking for me, she kinda glances around and walks out the door. At this point i'm going, alright what the ****? I don't know whether I just got rejected, or she forgot, or whatever but I did feel like she left me hanging. I go on the next week, thinking about her. Skip to the next friday. I work the shift, we have a good shift as usual, I asked her what happened that time and she was like oh yeah I forgot, So i just let it off and forgot about it, and somehow we ended up talking about her ex, and I was like how was the relationship with your ex going and she tells me that they got back together. At this point, i'm just like alright, I give up. Whatever. Didn't speak to her for the next week, the next friday she didn't show up to work cuz she forgot her work clothes at school. So didn't see her then or talk to her for the past 2 weeks. And then outta no where, like a week ago I get a random text from her saying "Hi =)" I respond to that, she gives me a call we talk on the phone for like 2 hours. So were talking, and she invites me to a movie on sunday night. I agreed, but like I was thinking no i'm not watching a movie with you I want to get to know you as a person. Skip to this friday, we work the shift. And it was just alot different, we didn't talk as much or anything just alot of eye contact and smiles. I tell her i'll give her a call saturday night to figure out what were gonna do on sunday, I give her a call on saturday she tells me that shes busy, studying for a test and at this point im calling total bull****. And then she asks me what im doing over the weekdays if im free to chill. I agree, and tell her that i'd let her know what day would work. So I just decided **** it, im busy this weekend, im not gonna hang out with you. I can't tell if you have a boyfreind, I can't tell whether you like me or not. I just don't know what she wants. Sorry for the long read, Im in desperate need for help
Jilly Bean Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 What help do you need, hon? The girl has a BF, or at the least, wants you to think she does. She sounds like a LOT of games, and a LOT of drama. Move on.
Author Funkymonkey Posted October 28, 2008 Author Posted October 28, 2008 I geuss, that's my only shot. I don't know, I really like her. I don't get how she keeps sending me these signals of intrest. I don't understand her.
Green Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 First of all no don't move on. Don't plan dates with her, ask her out on the day and time you want to do something. Don't make it on a saturday or friday night when she's most likely to have something going on make it like a txt on a wednesday night "whats up?" "lets hang out where are you" then pick her up and make out whith her. A movie would have been fine because you could have made out a bunch. Try not to make this girl your only hope go hit on a bunch of girls and you won't care so much when one plays mind games.
Author Funkymonkey Posted October 28, 2008 Author Posted October 28, 2008 Eh Well, I texted her like 4 hours ago telling her that Im gonna busy the rest of this week. So I geuss I ****ed it up again. I never make good descisions
Jilly Bean Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 Eh Well, I texted her like 4 hours ago telling her that Im gonna busy the rest of this week. So I geuss I ****ed it up again. I never make good descisions Whoa! Just because she's a flake and is playing games and yes, most definitely sending you mixed messages, don't OWN her crap. You have every right to be confused and do NOT question your decisions. You just sound too stable for someone like her. Maybe this is part of your attraction...
Green Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 Eh Well, I texted her like 4 hours ago telling her that Im gonna busy the rest of this week. So I geuss I ****ed it up again. I never make good descisions yeah that was pretty pointless txt but try not to care. I mean obviously you had your hopes up that you'd have a new gf but there are plenty of others. Its as easy as striking up random flirty conversations and then just sugesting you should hang out some time getting the number and then hanging out. Depending on what your life goals are I suggest you enroll in a school of some sort also a great way to meet more women then the few you see at your job. But seriously alot of women are flakey and if your letting this get you down just wait untill the mindgames of a girl your actualy in a relationship come... hehe I'm not saying this to scare you but just put things in perspective. Go ahead keep trying with this girl but seriously treat it like a joke because thats how shes acting silly. Persue other women and you'll feel better
Author Funkymonkey Posted October 28, 2008 Author Posted October 28, 2008 Whoa! Just because she's a flake and is playing games and yes, most definitely sending you mixed messages, don't OWN her crap. You have every right to be confused and do NOT question your decisions. You just sound too stable for someone like her. Maybe this is part of your attraction... Thanks, I totally agree. I'm thinking of just trying to ignore her for now, I don't know how well this coming friday night shift is gonna work out lol.
Author Funkymonkey Posted October 29, 2008 Author Posted October 29, 2008 Quick Question. Do I still have a shot? or am I done for the day. I'm not gonna try and get her anymore, but If I still have a chance i'll just let the ball roll and see where it goes.
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