sillylvgirl Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 Me and my boyfriend talked about moving in and i think we are going to start saving up soon so we can get a place together in like 6 months or so. Im 18 (soon to be 19) and hes already 19 almost 20. We both still live at home and we've been dating for 2 years in Dec. How long did you wait to move out and did it work out for u?
BannaBee57 Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 My experience? I was with my ex for 2 years before we moved in together. We broke up about 6 months later. I won't move in with another boyfriend. But, I've also seen plenty of relationships that do fine with cohabitation.
V.Vixen Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 ok, I moved in with my ex husband at 18. At the time I thought it was great. Looking back, though, I realize that I should have either stayed home for another couple of years, or moved in with another girl for a year or two. I really think that those years of your life are important years getting to know yourself, but that is JMO. Honestly, if you really want to move out, I suggest getting a roommate and have your bf do the same, at least for a year or 2..then you will both know how to live on your own before living together.
Lauriebell82 Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 I moved in with my ex bf when I was 20ish. We were together for a little over a year when we moved in together. We didn't break up, but living together didn't work out at the time because he was immature and couldn't pay his share of the rent. About 6 months later we did break up, due to similar issues. In that experience, I was ready to move in together but he was not. Current relationship, moved in after a year and 9 months. Living together has been wonderful so far. He is 26 and I am 25. We are both responsible with finances, and can handle situations that arise. IMO, age 19 or 20 is too young to move in together. Like the other posters said, those are the years where you want to have fun with your friends, do what you want, take care of yourself. I suggest either getting a roomate or living at home for a few more years before taking that step. By the way, are the two of you in college? Do you have jobs? How will you pay the rent, expenses, food, ect.?
silvergirl Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 Do you plan on getting married? The reason I ask is because me and my ex moved in together after a year, things were wonderful, until we got married 2 years later. One thing I've noticed, everyone responding to this is saying when I moved in with my "EX"
konfuzd Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 I suggest getting a roommate and have your bf do the same, at least for a year or 2..then you will both know how to live on your own before living together. I agree with this 110% Regardless of how strong your relationship is, things will be vastly different when you have to pay your own bills, divide chores etc. I think it's vital to observe how someone lives and manages their life on their own before making the move. I refused to move in with an ex without him living on his own. We ended up breaking up before that became an issue. He ended up getting a place with his next gf, and his inability to take care of himself led to their break up.
norajane Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 Why play house at your age? Don't give up your freedom and independence for a guy you aren't married to. Moving in together at such a young age just spells break-up soon to me.
O'Malley Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 I really think that those years of your life are important years getting to know yourself, but that is JMO. Honestly, if you really want to move out, I suggest getting a roommate and have your bf do the same, at least for a year or 2..then you will both know how to live on your own before living together. Plus the fact that people's goals and feelings change markedly from eighteen into their mid/late twenties. Why not date eachother another 2-4 years, and then see if you're both on the same page? If you're adamant about moving out, this is the time to learn to be independent, manage your finances, make decisions about education and employment. Get a roommate and stay at your boyfriend's place from time to time. Have you two discussed your educational plans, what employment you're seeking, what your views on marriage and children are, and when ideally you both would be ready for it? I'm not against cohabitation per se, but in some cases a relationship begins to coast on inertia when people live together -- especially when the two people haven't discussed marriage or children in depth.
Author sillylvgirl Posted October 29, 2008 Author Posted October 29, 2008 Have you two discussed your educational plans, what employment you're seeking, what your views on marriage and children are, and when ideally you both would be ready for it? I'm not against cohabitation per se, but in some cases a relationship begins to coast on inertia when people live together -- especially when the two people haven't discussed marriage or children in depth. Yes we have discussed out education; I am in college (fully paid due to my scholarship) and hes paying his own way. He has his employment already Hes been an electrician for years now (he started way young) and hes going to college so he can get his degree in business management so he can take over his dads electrical company. Im going for psychology- possibly criminology. We have talked about getting married and kids but not getting married any time soon, at least until we r out of college and no kids until our careers are established enough to support them. We had thought we want some around the ages 28-29. Thank you for everyone's input and experiences and thoughts.
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