Sota Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 I'm 20 and a while ago i started univ. with a kind-of friend I've known for a couple of years but only met every half year or so. I became great friends with her and at some point we went friends-with-benefits. I didn't realise I'd fallen in love with her due to telling myself just to keep it at the friends level. I probably knew it deep down, but I denied it. About two months passed, then lightning struck when she went back to her old univ to visit her old friends incl. old ex. during vacations. I got a text saying she was going to make another go for it with her ex. Here everything came at once; I noticed my true feelings for her and at the same time I was practically dumped. I've told her that I'm in love with her and she still wants to be friends, and I do to. But how am I supposed to get over her when I have to see her just about every day. Every time I spend time with her it gets worse. I told myself that we're just not meant and she probably won't ever fall in love with me. But then she tells me she was in love with me before I went abroad to study about a year and a half ago. Now I can't even make up excuses as to why it wouldn't happen... Before she wen't back to her ex. we were very couple-like. People even assumed we were dating. What am I supposed to do? Should I wait for her in hope?
lofi_tokyo Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 I am going to say run for the hills on this one. Sounds like she never really go over her ex. Then, for fear of getting overly committed, wound up in a FWB situation, which is what she needed probably at the time. Feelings grew when she dropped he guard, but her ex came back... and by the sounds of it, she was semi waiting for him. How long did they date for, did she mention him often, did he leave her?
Author Sota Posted October 28, 2008 Author Posted October 28, 2008 She said she wasn't happy in her old relationship. She couldn't be herself and had to put herself in second of his ways. That's why she wanted to end it when she moved to this new univ. We talked some about her ex. and from what I learnt it seems she was deeply in love with him but denied herself and thus weren't happy. They dated for only 2 (!) months before breaking up and it was like this for about half a hear until when they got back together a couple of weeks ago. (You'll have to excuse my english, I'm from sweden)
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