scold2886 Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 Ok,me and my girlfrind of 4 years broke up in july and it was a nasty breakup. We barly talked for 2 month's and then we started talking slowly again. Well for the last 2 month's we been talking and i been driving down to see her every other weekend. Now this is where it gets tricky. She says she kind of wants to work thing's out but she's confused and want's to take it slow as friends first and i respect that. I mean when were together were happy and kissing cuddling etc but no sex Grrrrrrr. So any time i talk to or go hang out with another girl and finds out she goe and acts all crazy on me. So if she just want's to be friends for now and i go out with another girl or talk to her why does she act crazy toward's me. I have given this girl so many chance's for us to get back together but she keep telling me she's not ready but if i go out with another girl it's a whole different story. I'm so confused please help me.
Geishawhelk Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 I think you simply need to clarify with her whether she thinks you're back in a relationship or not, because if you are, then it would be nice to step it up a notch - and how about next time you bring some pyjamas, an overnight bag, and protection..... ? if not, and she's just a friend now - I think you simply need to tell her that she's going to have to get used to your dating other girls, because moving on means exactly that. I also think you need to study how to use apostrophes..... (See Geisha duck!!)
mixwell Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 From her perspective I'm sure she sees you as not being serious about her if you're going out with other girls BUT if she is that interested in working things out then she needs to step up. She cannot say she wants time to think about it or say she isn't ready and expect you to not move on. she sounds a bit selfish to me. She wants to take her time and drag you on but gives you some hope to keep you there which isn't right. If I were you I would say fine take your time but in the mean time I am not waiting around for you to decide and say let me know when you're ready and if I'm available then we can work it out. You and her are just friends so you have every right to go out with other girls and to be honest since you aren't a couple it really isn't any of her business anyways... Good luck !
carhill Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 IMO, you're in rubber band limbo. No one is taking a definitive action. The problem is the "dating" process is poisoned by your familiarity from your past R. The timing is getting all messed up. Confusion rules. OP, can you see yourself with this woman as your SO/spouse? If not, move on. Cut it clean, be honest and move on.
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