wayfaerer1 Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 Just posting because I was reminded of her a lot today. This pain is annoying - It's not in my head all the time, but hides and then shows itself whenever it feels like it, with no warning. Keep getting flashbacks and it's so painful - so many memories from a 3 year relationship. We broke up August 29th, and I cut contact with her a couple weeks into September. I just feel very alone and now that I've had a lot of time, about a month or so without talking to her at all, it's really setting in. I'm really realizing now how much I depended on her for so many things. This hurts so bad... And I'm sick of these flashbacks - I just want to move on and be happy, but I can't...
MichiganMan222 Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 I'm having a terrible day too. Started at 4am. Woke up with that horrible empty feeling in my gut and a heavy chest. Feels like a low electric current buzzing in there. Got back to sleep just in time for the alarm to go off. Went to work early because I knew I wasn't getting back to sleep (I usually 'snooze' the alarm for 30-40 min). Felt crappy at work all day. Very antsy. Can't keep still. ERGGGGGGG!!!!
Sysyphus28 Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 I am having a really hard monday too. I don't know. Maybe its daylight savings. today has been really hard. I have been NC for 6 weeks and I wanted to call her and see all day. It feels so unhealthy and I wish I could just wake up and feel awesome! She left me so damn cold, and the feeling of her being gone is brutal! I will Not contact her and I will push on through. Thier is a sweet concert on friday and I am not going to go because she will be thier. I want to go.....but square one is an ugly place!
northstar1 Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 I am having a really hard monday too. I don't know. Maybe its daylight savings. today has been really hard. I have been NC for 6 weeks and I wanted to call her and see all day. It feels so unhealthy and I wish I could just wake up and feel awesome! She left me so damn cold, and the feeling of her being gone is brutal! I will Not contact her and I will push on through. Thier is a sweet concert on friday and I am not going to go because she will be thier. I want to go.....but square one is an ugly place! I hear you..............I have slept like crap the past few days, can't fall asleep, dreams, the works. The past 3 days have been rough as well, thinking..........thinking......thinking....
ioncebelieved Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 It can be tough!!! Know the feeling well. All too well! Almost while doing NC, it seems like the movie"Groundhog day" every day seems the same as the following one. I will be glad when that goes away.
EmperorR Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 ah comes in and post. I was feeling so good for ahwile but today I feel like crap again. It makes me sick to my stomach how the girl I loved and was going to marry was a slut. Screwing dome guy she just met and I still wanted and loved her got kicked to the curb. Now she has a new boyfriend already and I'm still alone fighting through good and mad days.
Sysyphus28 Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 Truly, like groundhogs day. The funny thing is I have been successfull in dating, I've been hanging out with different girls......I've been having "fun" But...I still think of her. She hasn't called me in 6-7 weeks...... I got clowned by this girl and she doesn't even care. She is already partying and sleeping with someone else. Truthfully, I am SCARED to call her. If she treats me like a chump one more time I will lose my mind. I can't take any more rejection and indifferent attitude from that litle Bit**........I can't take it! I seriously will go back to square one, and be miserable.
ioncebelieved Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 Truly, like groundhogs day. The funny thing is I have been successfull in dating, I've been hanging out with different girls......I've been having "fun" But...I still think of her. She hasn't called me in 6-7 weeks...... I got clowned by this girl and she doesn't even care. She is already partying and sleeping with someone else. Truthfully, I am SCARED to call her. If she treats me like a chump one more time I will lose my mind. I can't take any more rejection and indifferent attitude from that litle Bit**........I can't take it! I seriously will go back to square one, and be miserable. I have dated one women and I see her some right now, but it is doing me NO good because I am not ready. I have explained this to the women and she is fully aware, but seems to think she can make me happy. Not her place to make me happy, it is mine!!! She is not the right one and I know that. Dating is out of the question until I am really ready.
The Player Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 Wow a lot of people are having the same problems, I have written this post for somebody else, but I'm copying and pasting it here for you because..well you need it. Read it and apply all of it. Hey I know exactly how you feel man. But I want to help you out, here's an article one of my mentors has written for all people with breakup problems. Ouch! You broke up with a girl or she just broke up with you. Either way, it's over and you're hurting. Whether it's been a day or a month or even a year, every time you think of that girl or something reminds you of her, a large pit forms in your stomach and tears well in your eyes. The absolute worst feeling in the world. You'd rather be sick with the flu, kicked in the nuts, or punched in the face; in fact you'd rather feel anything but what you feel when you think about her. Leave the Past Where It Belongs Who knows why you two broke up and who cares. All that matters is that it is over. Yes, you felt good with her and yes, you had all those special cute things that were unique to that relationship and yes, I know you want those times back. We all have wanted it. Regardless, the relationship happened in the past and it must stay there. Time spent dwelling on what you lost is time that could be better spent improving the present and the future. Keep It in the Past I know it is easier said than done. Even still, you must make the jump. Delete your ex's phone number, remove her from facebook, from myspace, and from instant messaging. Throw away all mementos. Anything that might remind you of her or you might use as a crutch to remember her, it must go! You want it now and you think you need it, but all it will do is cause more harm and become an addiction. If you've been there before, you know I'm right and if you haven't, then listen to me or you'll soon learn the hard way. Nothing is worse than rereading old letters, constantly checking for an internet profile update, or the urge to call the ex when you become needy. Fight it and make the jump. You will do it sooner or later and sooner saves you the pain. Cut All Ties and Find New Ones After every relationship the guy hopes to turn a breakup into a FWB or to somehow rekindle the fire and start fresh. If those hopes were realistic, the two of you wouldn't have broken up in the first place, buddy. Don't try and stay friends with her. In fact, I would recommend never talking to her again. It simply brings back old memories, old feelings, and more pain. Don't even go for one more **** or one more kiss or one more anything. It is over and it is time to move on. Any time you would have spent maintaining a friendship could be better spent meeting new people or in the gym or bettering yourself. Even if you feel insecure, or needy, or like you will never find happiness again, just know that it will happen if you go out and look for it fresh. Once you take the long scary jump across the abyss, a beautiful oasis is awaiting you and you'll never look back. Perspective and Time Everyday gets easier when you totally remove your ex from your life. Stay positive and keep your eyes open to the beauty in life and the positive things you take for granted. At everyone's darkest moment, there is beauty to be found around them. At everyone's darkest moment, someone out there dreams of living your life. It hurts now, but looking back you will know you made the right decision to move on and find greater happiness than you would have ever known. Leave your comfort zone and you will be rewarded. Never forget that we all have been there and felt your hurt...many times. It is never painless, but it doesn't have to be a prolonged scarring process. By: Wispy from the TIC Let me know if it helps, goodluck bro!
ahhhchooo Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 3 months. I haven't logged on LS since the 15th of October. I still miss her. I was sitting in the lounge staring at the wall at midnight, sipping a beer because I couldn't sleep. I seriously looked at myself and went WTF... 3 months ago I would've... she would've never dreamed of this. She traded it all in for some c*ck. After all the times she asked me not to betray her, she was the one. Well, some good has happened since we broke up. I've got a better job, made travel plans, exercising and getting back on track to study. For the life of me though, I cannot pick up girls and my dates have not led to 2nd dates. Makes me feel really lonely
EmperorR Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 3 months. I haven't logged on LS since the 15th of October. I still miss her. I was sitting in the lounge staring at the wall at midnight, sipping a beer because I couldn't sleep. I seriously looked at myself and went WTF... 3 months ago I would've... she would've never dreamed of this. She traded it all in for some c*ck. After all the times she asked me not to betray her, she was the one. Well, some good has happened since we broke up. I've got a better job, made travel plans, exercising and getting back on track to study. For the life of me though, I cannot pick up girls and my dates have not led to 2nd dates. Makes me feel really lonely I could have writen this post. My ex was so jealous if I tAlked to a girl a old friend added me on facebook oh no. Yet she's the one who couldn't keep her legs close.
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