Flowerpower7 Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 this guy and I had a casual relationship for several months...but it ended 2 years ago. We remain friends. he is having a very difficult time finding any girl to date; but claims he isnt interested in dating me. why is it that when we are together he is sometimes nervous and other times he tries to avoid me. Is it temptation? he is the one who broke it off 2 years ago...because he had a big ego from the great sex, and believed he could date any woman...
Geishawhelk Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 No it's guilt. He still doesn't want to date you, but he remembers the idiotic thing he said about being able to date any woman - and actually, he can't.
Goldstar Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 I don't know why he acts the way he does, but can you tell me why you are interested in spending time with him? I don't know that I would hang around someone who tried to avoid me. What do you get out of the friendship?
whichwayisup Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 why is it that when we are together he is sometimes nervous and other times he tries to avoid me. Ask him this. Do you like him more than a friend? Do you want things to be more serious?
Author Flowerpower7 Posted October 27, 2008 Author Posted October 27, 2008 You know, I dont know why i post questions on here anymore. I ask for answers NOT personal opinions.
whichwayisup Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 Sorry that you feel noone is helping you. Anyway, I think you need to ask him. We don't know what goes on in his mind and why he's playing the hot/cold game with you.
Goldstar Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 He has told you he doesn't want to date you. Really that's all you have to go on unless you ask him what's up with the hot/cold behavior.
Geishawhelk Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 You know, I dont know why i post questions on here anymore. I ask for answers NOT personal opinions. Nobody's given you personal opinions... they've tried to answer your questions and given you other possibilities to consider..... Perhaps if you gave a little more background, you might receive more compact and specific responses.
Lucky_One Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 Aren't my answers always my personal opinions?
CommitmentPhobe Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 You know, I dont know why i post questions on here anymore. I ask for answers NOT personal opinions. Google is your friend
carhill Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 Aren't my answers always my personal opinions? Yeah, that's kinda the purpose of a discussion forum why is it that when we are together he is sometimes nervous and other times he tries to avoid me. He's replaying the great sex in his mind and is PO'd that he screwed up and his ego is fighting his d!ck. I'm surprised he doesn't explode
Okeydokey Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 maybe he has the philosophy that once he breaks something off he would never date that same person again because it already didn't work for a reason, but that doesn't mean that he isn't still attracted to you. i think that is what is going on. doesn't want to date you because he already knows the issues and already knows the problems it brings... but still finds you attractive personally and physically, probably. those things just don't outweigh the downsides... maybe.
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