stillafool Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 Guys I know how you feel, I've been there. Don't call them I guarantee you it will only make you feel worse than you do now. Especially when they have moved on to other people. The only thing that is going to heal your broken heart is "time". It sucks because at first it seems that time is standing still but it will move on. You have to give up all hope for reconciliation with your exes if you want to move on. If you keep thinking you want them back and hold on to hopes that you will get them back you will never get over them. Most times you won't get them back anyway because when they have moved on to someone else their heart is ususally with that new person. You just have to keep telling yourself "they don't want me anymore and I have to accept this and move on".
lofi_tokyo Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 Guys I know how you feel, I've been there. Don't call them I guarantee you it will only make you feel worse than you do now. Especially when they have moved on to other people. The only thing that is going to heal your broken heart is "time". It sucks because at first it seems that time is standing still but it will move on. You have to give up all hope for reconciliation with your exes if you want to move on. If you keep thinking you want them back and hold on to hopes that you will get them back you will never get over them. Most times you won't get them back anyway because when they have moved on to someone else their heart is ususally with that new person. You just have to keep telling yourself "they don't want me anymore and I have to accept this and move on". Yup I agree. Well said! Sys, you and I both need to just let go. You're stressing wayy too much here.
Author Sysyphus28 Posted October 28, 2008 Author Posted October 28, 2008 You are a great advice giver.....seriously And you are right. I am stressing this way too much. Looking on LS for pearls of wisdom. ..........................The biggest pearl has been the empowering stories of people who have used NC and broken previous cycle of love addiction and longing............. I really want to call HER. But she is not HER anymore........ she might be a different person. I will face the truth one day.............just stay NC!
MichiganMan222 Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 Exactly. They are not the same person. I know my ex is not the same person she was when I was with her for 2 years. She is someone else. I might as well call one of my friends' girlfriends and ask them if they will start dating me. I'll get the same result. (Well at least with them I'd have a chance )
alwayssme Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 it's crazy how much alike break-ups make us feel...uhh they suck and hurt and there's this empty feeling because we wake up every mornign knowing the person that loved us doesn't love us anymore, and we still do. it sucks and it's not fair but i guess this is life and we just have to deal with it. good luck everyone!
EmperorR Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 same, my ex got a new guy within a matter of weeks, ie he was waiting in the background. i called her and tried to get her back in a nice way but she wouldnt listen. i wished her good luck and she said the same. and that was it.. not heard from her since. she obviously really cared about me since we were together for over 3 years.... not. youve just got to fight each day and move on with your life, that dosnt mean find another gf, you probably wont for a long time, i mean move on with your life, friends, activities, hobbies. anything. i know how you feel. its unbearable. Ah I could have wrote this 3 years for me to except my ex cheated on me. Then dumped me, met a new friend said she wanted to be alone a week later after cheating and dumping in some next guys arm.
Ruby Slippers Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 It has been about six weeks for me, too, and I find that I have my great days and my eh days. Sometimes I think of him very little, and other times I think of him a lot. Sometimes I am certain I did the right thing in leaving him, and other times I wonder if it was a mistake. I am starting to record a song I wrote for him at the peak of our love, about all his good qualities. Sometimes when I play it I just feel happy for the good times we had, while other times I feel a little sad for not getting to experience those good qualities anymore. But whatever is happening, I am putting myself first and doing good things for myself now. I know I am going to be OK. You just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other, and moving toward happiness again. That's what I'm trying to do.
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