Belle28 Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 I am in urgent need of good advice. Never been very good at relationships or understanding men. At 28 I think I should be a bit wiser but I am still very emotionally immature and let myself get carried away by the moment far too many times. I met this guy through my ex who was working in a project for our company and we immediately hit it off talking. He thought I was still going out with my ex but I explained the situation to him. I did not think much of it back then because he was leaving town the next day but after a couple of drinks we started making out and I ended up in his hotel room although nothing really happened. We talked for most of the night and I had a really good time. Before I left he gave me his email address so that I would let him know how my ex would react to the news. I did send him an mail and we started exchanging several mails a week for over two months. He even bought a camera to send me pics of him and his family. About a month ago I went on vacation to NYC and I knew that he used to go there for work a lot so we met and it was amazing. Everything was fine until my ex found out about it and started sending him terrible emails and calling him with threats. We agreed to cease contact for a while until I would solve things with my ex, which I did. We have been in contact a couple of times now since that but I have heard nothing from him since last week and he wont reply to my emails or my calls. I asked him for some honesty and that if he did not want to have any more contact with me I would respect his decision. He does not seem like the type of guy who would leave things like that and not be very clear about his intentions so I am worried something might have happened. What can I do apart from waiting?
JooLee Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 well, think throughly. if this guy doesnt want to fight for you and stick around so early in the relationship, is he really worth waiting for? you have done your part, and now there's nothing u can do but wait. dont text, call or email, it'll just make you look needy. i guess you just have to patiently wait and decide if he's worth the trouble.
lofi_tokyo Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 JooLee is absolutely right. If this guy is not prepared to stick with you early on, then perhaps it is best he is out of the picture. Your ex definitely made it hard for him though - I've seen a few relationships fail because the new boyfriend/girlfriend was getting threats from their SO's ex. If this happens early enough in a relationship, before the couple is really rooted together, it can be cause enough to end things entirely. It sounds to me like this is what happened with the man you met. He saw lots of potential in you, but when your ex came onto the scene he got spooked, enough so to cut you out. While you can't really blame the guy too much, you deserve a man that can be with you, and be happy with you. I'm sorry your ex got involved with things. :S
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