John32 Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 Hello to everyone on the Board as I just Joined and just wanted to ask a question about female behavior if she is interrested after the first date. We went on date so far and haven't hooked up yet for a 2nd date because she is in medical school and doesn't have a lot of time. But so far She responds to all my emails the same or next date She returns my calls the same day or next date And After teasing her about we can only go out again if she got a grade on Final she says-"oh you not being fair" I told her she had to get a 90. LOL So this sounds like she is defintely interested romantically right??
Lovegod Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 So this sounds like she is defintely interested romantically right?? What about the first kiss? If you don't give (or get) the clear indication that you are indeed dating, then you're just hanging out as friends. My goal is to ALWAYS get the first kiss by the end of the first date. Earlier is better - if you're confident enough to go for it on the day you meet her, then do that. If you don't kiss, you'll be confused (just as you are now) and she will also be confused. Try for another date. If you're lucky, she'll take you up on a second one. If you happen to get one, you must kiss by the end of that date. Even better - kiss her when you start the date.
betterthandead Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 Misconceptions of "having to kiss a girl after first or second date" I disagree with that. Kissing a girl signals interest, to men that implies "goal reached" but to women it means nothing. Why nothing? GIRLS ALREADY KNOW THAT YOU ARE INTERESTED IN THEM SEXUALLY. But this doesn't mean they will react the way you want. And just because a girl responded in a timely matter with your emails or phone calls does not mean she finds you romantically interesting.
CommitmentPhobe Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 Need more details. How long since first date? Have you asked her out? How? How many times? What did she say?
Lovegod Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 GIRLS ALREADY KNOW THAT YOU ARE INTERESTED IN THEM SEXUALLY. One of the ways women and men are identical is they like to analyze every little thing about the other interested party. Women will take the slightest brush-off as an indication of him not being interested. Men will take the slightest sign of interest as an indication that she may want to date him sometime in the future. The problem is when there's no clear indications of interest, both are left confused. Tension exists before the two interested people touch each other. Once touch has been established, it can progress and eventually lead to more sexual activities. Without touch, there is no indication of sexual interest.
Author John32 Posted October 27, 2008 Author Posted October 27, 2008 Misconceptions of "having to kiss a girl after first or second date" I disagree with that. Kissing a girl signals interest, to men that implies "goal reached" but to women it means nothing. Why nothing? GIRLS ALREADY KNOW THAT YOU ARE INTERESTED IN THEM SEXUALLY. But this doesn't mean they will react the way you want. And just because a girl responded in a timely matter with your emails or phone calls does not mean she finds you romantically interesting. Really? Now I'm really lost because I figured that was a positive sign that she was interested since she doesn't waste time replying back to me. Asking how my day was and what I did on that particular. Well atleast I do she is atleast in seeing me again so I will take it step by Step.
Fraggle Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 I agree with Lovegod here. You have to escalate things beyond just chatting and "getting along" to the next level: touch and kissing. Once you are there, you'll know if she's interested in you beyond the friend level.
Fraggle Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 Really? Now I'm really lost because I figured that was a positive sign that she was interested since she doesn't waste time replying back to me. Asking how my day was and what I did on that particular. Well atleast I do she is atleast in seeing me again so I will take it step by Step. It is a good sign, but for your next date, make to initiate some sort of physical contact during the date. It can be anything from just lightly touching her arms, hands, etc. Handholding is good. And at the end, go for a kiss (depending on how she responded to earlier touch).
Recommended Posts