Reggie Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 Anyone have a WS who they believeis disordered? I'd really never heard of personality disorders until after finding out about my XW's affairs. But, when I consulted my attorney for the first time, I described not only the infidelity but other dynamics in the marriage. My XW was bouncing checks and overspending with regularity. She would, occassionally, sneak into the bathroom while I was showering and douse me with freezing cold water. She would give me the silent treatment regularly for the weirdest reasons, percieving infractions or sllights where none were intended. She hated my sons,. her stepkids, after pretending to like them during courtship. She told me I was like a woman and had no balls. She would call me the most degrading names. She insisted our daughters sleep in our bed each night, such that we could never have sex. I researched her past aftger finding out about the affair. Seems she had slept with her highschool soccer coach for 2 years while a student. She had affairs as the OW with 2 married men. SHe quit college her senior year and sent home fake grade transcripts to her folks, She was living with a married guy while pretending to be in school. For the 10 years we were married she told me she had graduated college when she never had. I know infidelity is common among the disordered. But, the infidelity was not the only abuse that was going on. Anyone else dealt with BPD or NPD or ASPD in their unfaithful spouse? It really messes with you.
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