foreverlove06 Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 This is tough place to be in and I dont know how to describe it. My boyfriend is an amazing person, and I do love him.. However, I am starting to get fed up and I am feeling kinda bummed:sick:. After 2.5 years of dating, theres just no romance anymore.. None, nada, zip, ziltch. When I try to bring this up to him, he cant understand where I am coming from. No dates, no buttering me up, and lets not even discuss the no sex issue because I think ive posted things about that numerous times.... He never tells me things! He will deny things till he is blue in the face, even though I KNOW the truth. How can there be effective communication when he wont even talk? He doesnt like to admit there are problems, so even if he DOES think there is something wrong with our relationship.. he wont say it. We cant discuss the no-sex issue either, because he ends up telling me "A relationship isnt all about sex"... Now, I am far from a sex fiend, but the sex things always becomes an issue, which I try to fix, which he doesnt talk about, which leads to an argument!... How do i fix this!? Sometimes, he is just selfish and inconsiderate. I dont want sex all the time, definately far from that.. I just feel unloved and unattractive at times. When we first started going out, he would do little surpises, make me feel special... little things, you know? I believe him to be the love of my life, hes so good to me in many ways. Its just hard to "work at" your relationship when your SO doesnt participate in conversations about it. Im not trying to change him, I just would like him to try sometimes.. I would never want him to leave my life completely, but I have been considering a break for a while... Not sure what that will fix, but maybe something good will come out of it. Maybe if he talked to me we would be able to work out our issues....
Geishawhelk Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 This has been a huge issue for you for some time, and you look no closer to getting some kind of soution under your belt than you did two months ago. They do say, "When the sex is great, it's 5% of a relationship. When the sex isn't great, it's 95% of a relationship." Way things are going, I think the 100%'s not far off. I think you need to stop looking at just the 'sex' aspect and consider the bigger picture. All told, how far is this one going to go?
amylulu Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 I'm in the same kind of relationship and I've learned that most men don't feel that a relationship has problems and if they do they don't want to let you know that. As for the sex, it happens. If you let it go and just let him be him then you will have sex when you least expect it. I feel that if you keep letting yourself get mad over it then you will never go on and grow in your relationship.
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