MrEELB Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 And its amazing how stuff from the past really does come back and bite your arse. Things has moved on loads I would say. But do you ever really know when your ready to get on in life. When things were at a Low for me I met a lass, wasnt expecting any thing at all as she is 9 years younger than me but we got chatting had a laugh and went out a whole load of times. The age difference got to us though, her being 19 made things a little different for us. We chilled it down but I felt good about my self and the ex never ran through my head, even when she was finding any excuse to text me every day, keep all the stuff at my house and keep a set of my keys. I had been starting to go out more, and we had a works night out, hadnt expected any thing, but actually got it on with one of the girls from work who I had always had a softspot for and it appeared she had one for me too. We had a couple of dates last week and things went great, until Wednesday, she told me her ex was back and she wanted to try again with him, she was sorry bla bla bla. Now in the mean time my ex had been texting me and she popped over to my parents house to give my little sister a birthday present. When she left I walked her out side and she said she could really do with a good old long time hug. I didnt but when I left she gave me a kiss. Any hows im all confused and not really sure why I am writing this, Perhaps its as date 2 got back with her ex, Perhaps its as today I see my ex of 10 years with her new fella arm in arm and all happy. perhaps I feel real low about my self. Im a messs, why does she need to text me, why does she need a cuddle from me when she has a new great bloke in her life.
lofi_tokyo Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 Ugh. I am so sorry a girl you just started dating went for her ex who suddenly came back. Thats horrible. Guaranteed he only came back because she was happily dating you and got jealous. I'm sorry your in so much pain. Just remember, all of us at LS are here for you!
CaliGuy Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 Im a messs, why does she need to text me, why does she need a cuddle from me when she has a new great bloke in her life. It's much more simple than you think. You provide something for her, famiiarity perhaps, that she doesn't have with this new guy yet. However, the new guy provides her something you aren't right now, a romantic spark. Until she gains familiarity with the new guy, she will continue to feed her desires through you AND him. This is called SELFISH behavior. It's totally unfair to you. If I were in your position I would tell her flat out that she is not welcome at your mom's house anymore. You can't really stop her but you can let her know that it's uncomfortable for you and that it's delaying your healing process. People will continue to TAKE from you until you cut them off cold turkey. And really, that is what she did with you. She decided she wanted to give her love and affection to someone else, but in the meantime is sucking the life out of you. Make her stop. It's your life. Put your d*mn foot down, my friend. Enough is enough.
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