How do I turn down girls while dating?

[ChickenAce]

Hi, lately, as strange to me it seems, i've met a lot of girls on the internet, i've met girls around and about and i want to turn them down because i feel lack of physical attraction. I know it has happened a lot to me too cos girls often don't find me attractive but i love myself and how i look to me. So many times i feel so much encouragement from a lot of girls who express interest in me but i don't feel the same way about them even if they are priceless jewels i don't feel the 'the one' factor.

 

Please if any of you could share with me how to turn girls down without lying or some sort of flattery that is cheap. Please tell me how to turn down girls. I may sound like a rico suave but i'm not, just an ordinary guy who needs to know how to handle women who like me.

 

One time I felt so overpressured I told a girl to **** off in hopes that she would think I'm a jerk and that resulted in her being hurt and feeling like she was no good, I mean what sort of jackass am I. But then again if I can learn the art of turning down girls who are overpressuring I'd be so happy if anyone can teach me this without it being too cheap.

 

Thanks.

[carhill]

"You're a beautiful woman but I just don't feel the chemistry I need to feel to be more than friends" Is that honest enough for you, OP?

[ChickenAce]

Thanks, but i don't feel the line probably cos i never tried it before but it might work.

[Geishawhelk]

How about - "Thanks, I like you too, I think you're really nice, but I'm gay!"

 

Of course, this all falls to bits when the finally see you on the arm of a beautiful woman, but then you could always explain that she converted you.....

 

Heck, I dunno!

I've never been turned down!

[carhill]

You'll meet a lot of attractive women for whom you have no romantic feelings. Note, I didn't say sexual attraction. They're not the same. Learning how to delineate a romantic/spiritual/emotional connection from "my d!ck is hard and needs attention" is part of the maturing process.

 

If a woman takes the risk to approach you and you're not interested, affirm her desirability in the world and yet be honest about your perspective. If you were gay and were approached, you might say "Honey, you're gorgeous but I'm not into women" for example. That wouldn't be uncomfortable at all, would it?

[ChickenAce]

Thats it I don't want a relationship anymore, I want to be me and its enough If thats what I can be.

[Geishawhelk]

OK, that's a move...

 

Why?

[Nikki Sahagin]

Be honest and say that you don't feel the chemistry! Chemistry is not their fault, not yours - it's a natural factor. Therefore there need to be no offence. However have you considered that the one isn't always someone that comes crashing like a meteor into your lap. Sometimes a person developes into the one over time. One of these girls might be worth a chance!

[ChickenAce]

"If a woman takes the risk to approach you and you're not interested, affirm her desirability in the world and yet be honest about your perspective."

 

Thanks for this point carhill, much appreciated

[carhill]

OP, if I'm hearing you right, that's easy. "I think you're attractive, but I'm just not in an emotional place to have a relationship of any sort right now". Such would be common after the death of a spouse or a divorce. There is a mourning period where one's psyche recovers from the loss. Perhaps your impetus is different, but still valid.

 

Pardon me if I heard you wrong

[ChickenAce]

Yes, I kind of find some of the input better as your opening up to considerate answers sir.

[ChickenAce]

I don't want to be with anyone anymore I like being with myself and the things i like to do.