amylulu Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 I've been dating this guy for fifteen months. He has been married twice and has two girls with the first wife. I'm able to be around the younger daughter and have grown to love her. I'm not around when the other daughter is there because she doesn't like me due to the age difference (there is twenty years between us). I'm fine right now with not being around her. My problem is that she is so disrepectful towards me out in public or if she stops by to grab something from her room. I don't feel that she would be able to do that but her dad just let's her. Says to me that I don't understand things. I know that she may not like me but she should respect me. I'm at a loss of what to do?
BikerBeagle Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 Sadly, there's nothing you can do unless the guy isn't willing to step up to the plate and teach his daughter something as simple as courtesy and manners.
jason83 Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 I definitely don't think it's right for him to allow this. After 15 months, something should be changing IMO
norajane Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 Is she disrespectful toward everyone, or just you? You should ask your bf to elaborate on what you don't understand. That kid has already gone through 2 of her dad's divorces...she probably is a bit messed up emotionally.
Author amylulu Posted October 27, 2008 Author Posted October 27, 2008 Yeah, she is disrepectful toward other people too. I don't see how he would allow her to act that way. I know its hard because he's already been married twice but that is not an excuse to allow her to disrepect people. That's how I see it. My mother growing up was married and divorced twice and she would have never allowed me to act that way.
Island Girl Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 Unfortunately it is up to her dad to address it. If he doesn't or refuses to see it as an issue, it will become more and more burdensome for you and may very well become a major issue between the two of you. I wish you luck.
Dark-N-Romantic Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 Put your foot down with them both. Tell her how you feel about her dad and that she doesn't have to like it, but she WILL treat you like a human being and stop being disrespectful. And you need to tell him that he has to make a choice in the respect thing. Either he is going to start standing up for you to his daughter about her attitude or you are going to have to find a real man who knows how to handle all levels of his relationships. DNR
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