mortensorchid Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 I am in a situation lately. I have a thing for "Clark". Clark is a bad boy in all sense of the word. I know this. I have no problem with this, I head out to the bar where he frequents and parties and things, I sit on his lap and tee hee with him. My other friend warns me not to get to involved. Here's my question, although it might seem a little strange. I am really starting to think "So what?". Mr.Right is not coming along anytime soon. Why should I even think about finding someone alright when they obviously don't want me? I feel like guys really, really, really don't care about finding a good woman anymore. They talk the talk that they want someone smart, beautiful, etc., but push comes to shove and they don't want you no matter how smart, beautiful, etc. you may or may not be. Instead they rebound and go for trashy women. I also fear that I am becoming a bitter person as well. And I don't want to be a bitter person, it's hard to combat these feelings within me.
Green Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 I for one love trashy women... as long as they are willing to put out and look good naked
MN randomguy Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 as long as they are willing to put out and look good naked There you go mortensorchid. As long as you think you can look good naked for the rest of your life, you're set. If you plan on living past, Oh, say 30 or so you may want to enter that painful and patience testing process of sifting through the trash and finding Mr. Right. The situation you're in now if Mr. Right does come along he's going to view you as Ms. not into guys like me, not available, I think it would be smarter to go pursue this other woman over here.
IrishCarBomb Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 Have fun with this guy. You probably aren't ready to meet Mr. Right anyways. Cheers.
BikerBeagle Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 Nothing wrong with making the choice and being a 'short term' kind of girl ...provided you can live with that choice in the morning.
TigerCub Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 I don't see why it has to be an either or situation. You can still do the search for Mr. Right, but when the mood strikes and you're taking a break somewhere in this long journey - go for Mr. Right Now....
btc8 Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 I think I read somewhere that women are attracted to the 'bad boy' image mainly because they think they can change his behaviors. This of course is impossible, but it goes with the overall fact that women try to work hard to change their mates behaviors, but find they cannot. My advice: Don't think you will be able to transform this bad boy into your version of Mr. Right. Stay away...
jason83 Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 My opinion--Who you surround yourself with defines a lot of who you are. If this is the type of people you surround yourself with, don't expect Prince Charming to view you as the girl to take home to mom and raise a family with. He's going to look right past you because of what you appear to be
Art_Critic Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 Who you surround yourself with defines a lot of who you are. If this is the type of people you surround yourself with, don't expect Prince Charming to view you as the girl to take home to mom and raise a family with. He's going to look right past you because of what you appear to be This post is the absolute truth... My other friend warns me not to get to involved. Listen to your friend.
carhill Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 I also fear that I am becoming a bitter person as well. And I don't want to be a bitter person, it's hard to combat these feelings within me. Yep, sending bitter signals out will push all the Mr. Rights right out of your neighborhood. Guys can feel that stuff (at least I can). Besides, you're too young to be bitter. Give it another generation or so If you enjoy sitting on Mr. Bad's lap and can compartmentalize your emotions, what the heck.... you're young. You will push away some potentials short-term, but it's a big world with a lot of men in it. Good luck!
Hotel Paradiso Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 I am in a situation lately. I have a thing for "Clark". Clark is a bad boy in all sense of the word. I know this. I have no problem with this, I head out to the bar where he frequents and parties and things, I sit on his lap and tee hee with him. My other friend warns me not to get to involved. Here's my question, although it might seem a little strange. I am really starting to think "So what?". Mr.Right is not coming along anytime soon. Why should I even think about finding someone alright when they obviously don't want me? I feel like guys really, really, really don't care about finding a good woman anymore. They talk the talk that they want someone smart, beautiful, etc., but push comes to shove and they don't want you no matter how smart, beautiful, etc. you may or may not be. Instead they rebound and go for trashy women. I also fear that I am becoming a bitter person as well. And I don't want to be a bitter person, it's hard to combat these feelings within me. Well, no better way to become a trashy woman than be with your bad boy, right? Sorry, as a guy who has been on both sides of the fence, something's a little messed up with most of you girls these days. When we treat you like gold you're 'bored' and turned off, but when we f*ck with you, treat you a little crappy, sort of tell you what to do, etc - you seem to eat it up (as clearly shown here). It's pretty clear that you really don't WANT to be treated well, but you want the fantasy that your man treating you well is in the distance - that if you work hard enough at changing us, it'll eventually come. It's sort of a permanent 'thrill of the chase' combined with a little danger and excitement. Am I wrong?
Author mortensorchid Posted October 26, 2008 Author Posted October 26, 2008 Well, no better way to become a trashy woman than be with your bad boy, right? Sorry, as a guy who has been on both sides of the fence, something's a little messed up with most of you girls these days. When we treat you like gold you're 'bored' and turned off, but when we f*ck with you, treat you a little crappy, sort of tell you what to do, etc - you seem to eat it up (as clearly shown here). It's pretty clear that you really don't WANT to be treated well, but you want the fantasy that your man treating you well is in the distance - that if you work hard enough at changing us, it'll eventually come. It's sort of a permanent 'thrill of the chase' combined with a little danger and excitement. Am I wrong? Well I do think you're right in that. I see this example at all times of women being treated like crap and seeming to like it, then being treated well and complain of being bored. I can tell you that I don't get it either. I've been there, on both sides. Then, oddly enough, I've had the one who treats you like gold will one day turn into a complete monster and treat you like s---. Of course, they are cowards at heart. SO I guess it's a double edged sword, isn't it? Just for the record, I have no plans to actually get involved with the man in question. It probably won't go any further than a little teasing and laughter. Although, that's how I see it anyway.
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