UnamedSeven Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 Some of you may already know a few of my problems i have been having as of late. Well, its been really hard to deal with a friend who i used to like. We have always been fighting ever since June. Which was when i got her together with my best friend (They are still together and couldn't be anymore happier...Sigh). I really don't want to be hurt anymore by this whole stupid thing, but i feel that if i were to break the friendship i have with her, i honestly can't say that i will be able to get back together (as a friend) with her ever again. I've tried many things to see myself out of this, but I've always been roped back into the friendship and i feel that i can't live my life without her because of everything that shes done. What should i do?
BlueHarvest Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 If you had feelings for her (that surpassed friendship) then I'm inclined to agree that being JUST a friend will be extremely difficult, if not impossible. My suggestion is do this. Write down a list of qualities you like about her. Specific qualities mind you. Now write down a list of faults you see with her. If you can't list any qualities that are unique to her, then you just like her as another girl whom you have just gotten too involved with. If you can't list any faults, then you are just infatuated with her. There is a saying...."You like people for their qualities, you love them for their defects." I wish you luck in figuring this out for yourself, I know I've been in your shoes. The only thing you can do is move on, and either truthfully be JUST a friend, or sever all contact with her if you know you can't. It hurts but it's really the only way to go on from this point.
Author UnamedSeven Posted October 26, 2008 Author Posted October 26, 2008 If you had feelings for her (that surpassed friendship) then I'm inclined to agree that being JUST a friend will be extremely difficult, if not impossible. My suggestion is do this. Write down a list of qualities you like about her. Specific qualities mind you. Now write down a list of faults you see with her. If you can't list any qualities that are unique to her, then you just like her as another girl whom you have just gotten too involved with. If you can't list any faults, then you are just infatuated with her. There is a saying...."You like people for their qualities, you love them for their defects." I wish you luck in figuring this out for yourself, I know I've been in your shoes. The only thing you can do is move on, and either truthfully be JUST a friend, or sever all contact with her if you know you can't. It hurts but it's really the only way to go on from this point. I agree with what you are saying. Back only just this May, i could have sworn, on my life, that i loved her. Looking back, i can't say that i feel that strongly about her. I feel a faint attraction to her, because i never let go easy. Throughout the past 5 months, I've liked and had a relationship with one other girl but, i've never lost hope in their being a future between us. Back in May, we were bf and gf for just a night (not even 24 hours) and she broke up with me because she had feelings for my best friend. She also added how she was overwhelmed that somebody actually liked her for who SHE is. Which touched my heart, but since that day, i always thought that there would be something in store for us, in the future.
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