mixwell Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 Okay so my ex and I broke up in the beginning of Sept 4,2008. Since then we met up on 9/14 to talk about things and it was obvious she wasn't cool with us being together because of my friend doing something that was f'ed up. okay well basically after that I was like whatever and I admit I did text her a few times when I was drinking trying to rationalize wit her.. She kept to her side that as long as I talked to me friend that caused the damage she didn't want to be together which I can understand.. Well the last time I text her I said " babe forget him whatever we can work it out and we're stronger than that" she messaged me back with "we've talked about why it couldn't work out and im sorry... im with someone now and its hard when you text me" So at that point I was like okay whatever and excepted the fact that it was it. The turning point was when I didn't respond she called me 3 times.. @ 12:33, 1234 and @ 1:10AM. So i wake up the next day b4 work thinking wtf.. she then calls me @ 11am when I was at work and so I called her back.. We basically BS and talk about random things (work etc..) We kinda joked around about certain things work involved and then I told her "hey I have to go back into work because I'm not on break and whatnot.. I told her enjoy your day and then said I had to go.. It was an awkward hangup like she still wanted to chat. My question is why would she text me saying she was with someone and then when I don't respond and continue on why would she call me 3 times in a row at night and 11am the next day only to chit chat and BS.. She said to me when I was on the phone "sometimes my fingers like to dial numbers" which I took as she was thinking bout me etc.... I'm really confused because I really care about this girl and I was in a 7 year relationship that ended 4 years ago.. Since then this is the only woman I have asked to be my girlfriend since then because I felt like she was the one.. Any outlook is appreciated.. I feel like texting her asking her why she contacted me but I know better than that.. I have no intentions of calling her but I thought it was weird that after her texting me saying she is with someone and then her calling me 3 times in the AM and then @ work.. Any insight is appreciated.. I am thinking of it as she was thinking about me and wanted to see how I am doing but I really want to be with her and it kinda hurts me she is with someone else.. Someone suggested that she was fronting about being with someone because she wants to get a reaction outta me or to make me back up because she wants to get over "us". Anyways thats all I have to say for now.. Please advise.. PS> It kinda seems like she was just wanted to "check in" on me but she didn't ask if I were seeing someone nor did she say in any way she wanted to get back together or whatever" Peace
Author mixwell Posted October 27, 2008 Author Posted October 27, 2008 ::bump::: I also want to add that when she last texted me saying it wouldn't work and she was with someone it was about 1 week later she called.. Any insight ? I know what to do as far as not contacting her but just want to have an idea on why she would say one thing and then contradict herself and call me 4 times..
lakerlover Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 she is still interested if she is calling. I am female, I know these things. If she wasnt interested at all, she would avoid you like a plague, ignore your calls, and she wouldn't be calling you.
NickP Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 i don't think u shld listen to lakelover (no offense!) she's made her choice and with someone else.. she's calling u becos she's trying to fill the gap in her life that her new bf can't fill. u obviously meant some'in to her and that's why her "fingers like to dial" you number. but she hasn't choose u to be her ONE AND ONLY. on a separate note tho, i personally think it's a lil unhealthy that u're still thinking bout her as a future possible gf! she's moved on and having fun with another guy (sry to be brutal about tis!!!) but you're still sunken and hurt about her making that choice. even if u guys got back together now, will u be able to forgive her for going out with someone else whilst u're so clearly deeply in love with her? just a thought. i think if u wanna ask her why she called, go ahead! i mean that's obviously bugging u and until u do, u probably will never get over the fact that she suddenly did. but be prepared for any possible response. it might be nothing or it might be something that u want (or something u think u want?). just an opinion!
Author mixwell Posted October 28, 2008 Author Posted October 28, 2008 i don't think u shld listen to lakelover (no offense!) she's made her choice and with someone else.. she's calling u becos she's trying to fill the gap in her life that her new bf can't fill. u obviously meant some'in to her and that's why her "fingers like to dial" you number. but she hasn't choose u to be her ONE AND ONLY. on a separate note tho, i personally think it's a lil unhealthy that u're still thinking bout her as a future possible gf! she's moved on and having fun with another guy (sry to be brutal about tis!!!) but you're still sunken and hurt about her making that choice. even if u guys got back together now, will u be able to forgive her for going out with someone else whilst u're so clearly deeply in love with her? just a thought. i think if u wanna ask her why she called, go ahead! i mean that's obviously bugging u and until u do, u probably will never get over the fact that she suddenly did. but be prepared for any possible response. it might be nothing or it might be something that u want (or something u think u want?). just an opinion! I understand what you're saying and honestly I am over our breakup.. She didn't dump me because someone else and I hate that I think about her but for the most part I am over it.. I mean if she wants to be with someone else then fine (but I know he doesn't have a personality like me) shes even told me that it was one of things that really attracted her towards me was that I understood her and I got her personality.. I am moving on and I am not soo much hurt as I am disappointed. I wouldn't mind getting back together but there are a lot of things she would have to work on which I know she probably wouldn't . Unlike some I can understand her being with someone else and coming back because we really did click like I said and I'm sure she doesn't have that connection with the other guy just because I have a random stupid personality.. I have been told my many people that I have a great personality and I know I do. Anyways I'm not going to contact her to ask her why she called me but IF she calls again I might question her about it. Sucks because she was beautiful and seemed to be my type of girl for a long term relationship but if we can't work things out then obviously we weren't meant to be.. I'm good and can stay strong I just wish she would realize what she had now that she has lost it.. O well.. Peace
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