BlueHarvest Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 Alright Owl, Geisha, Whichwayisup. I took the first step. I got the number of that girl at work that I know is single. I'm getting away from that 30 year, 2 kids, MW. Now my question is...I haven't been on a date in over a year. I'm all nervous. Let me back up a little. I was moving a bunch of stuff from my old house into a storage facility. Stopped by work to pick up some boxes and saw she was working. Flirted with her, talked about the movie we were supposed to go see. She was really smiling alot at me. So I walk around a bit, worked up the nerve and said: Me: "So you wanna hang out a bit before we go see that movie?" Her: "Sure" Me: "Can I get your number?" Her: "Sure" Her: "Call it right now so I have your phone number too." Me: "Doing it right now." Me: "Alright done, well, see ya later!" I think I did pretty well . But now I'm like....Uh what the heck do I do to hang out with her....it would be stupid to go see a movie before we go to the movie we planned to go see. So now I'm at a loss as to what we can do for "hanging out" now in the meantime before the movie is released in theatres. I'm a quiet guy..my idea of a fun evening is messing around on the internet, watching Scrubs or CSI or Family Guy, or watching a movie.
Green Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 I see I'm stepping in late, but in the future if you arange to go see a movie with a girl at that point would be a good time to get the number. I understand your a home body but inviting her over to your place may be the best move. Do you cook? offer to make her something good to eat, that way she can come over and you guys can eat and make out on your couch while you watch tv.
Author BlueHarvest Posted October 26, 2008 Author Posted October 26, 2008 Unfortunately I'm in between places at the moment and living with my parents. Sad I know. Now I know she still lives with her parents but I honestly don't know how old she is (I'm guessing either 20-23 in that range). I'm 24..which I still think it's sad for me to be staying at my parents, even if it is temporary.
Green Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 just find a park and invite her to go for a walk in it with you.... something by the water would be best if you live by a lake or the ocean. And then just make sure you get close and kiss her before the end of your hang out
Author BlueHarvest Posted October 26, 2008 Author Posted October 26, 2008 Any other tips from others?
D-Lish Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 Just meet in a pub for a beer. Honestly- the first date should never be a movie... it's awkward, no talking. Remember, the onus of keeping the convo flowing is not just on you- she'll contribute too. lol. Most of my first dates are over a pint. I really like it that way. Relaxed atmosphere, a beer to clam the nerves. Don't get drunk though...lol.
Green Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 Just meet in a pub for a beer. Honestly- the first date should never be a movie... it's awkward, no talking. Remember, the onus of keeping the convo flowing is not just on you- she'll contribute too. lol. Most of my first dates are over a pint. I really like it that way. Relaxed atmosphere, a beer to clam the nerves. Don't get drunk though...lol. he's not sure if shes over 21 and I'm guesing he's in the states. Seriously if your not a bar type of guy I wouldn't go to one you could feel uncomfortable... but then again dlish is right alot of girls like that kind of date
Geishawhelk Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 Hey, I jut thought I'd give you a call....there's this *name of restaurant* that some friends told me is quite a good place to eat, I wondered if you'd like to come with me, and grab a bite, see what it's like?" (check a few places out, don't make it too pricey, and grab a lunch together.... it's less 'intense' than an evening date, and if you go for something cost-effective, you can discuss whether the food's worth the finance.... and go from there. I should think discussing the food though will be the last things on your mind....!) BTW.... Could I just say "well done you" for moving on from that other situation. I'm sure you see now, that it makes sense..... nice one.
Author BlueHarvest Posted October 26, 2008 Author Posted October 26, 2008 Thanks...I'm just a bit nervous. All of my previous relationship/dates have never lasted long. The longest was a 3 week stretch. :/
jason83 Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 I agree, invite her out to a restaurant. This way you can get to know one another more. Either that or coffee.
whichwayisup Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 Sense of humour, keep things light. You don't have to kiss her or try to hold her hand, unless you feel some vibes from her. It's a casual date, so don't put ANY pressure on yourself in the sense of 'how it should go..' No expectations is the best way to deal with this. Good luck!
betterthandead Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 Movie dates are so exciting and creative.
You'reasian Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 The best dates are the ones that you can interract with one another - either on a physical or mental level. If you take a woman dancing, ironically you don't have to talk much with her but you learn alot about her. Take her to dinner and you can talk about different things and learn about each other.
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