Mydish1 Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 I know some girls don't mind at all if things are going well and you kiss them mid-date. But that's something I don't really do, I stick with tradition and do it at the end. Today I went on a date with a girl..we had a really good time. Near the end, I suggested a second date (before we kissed). When we parted, I went in for a kiss..she face her cheek at me, then immediately turned so I could go for the lips and told her to call me. But I know I'll have to follow up. I don't know what that was about..I felt we clicked and had a really good time. What do you guys think that was about? Is she into me?
BikerBeagle Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 As a general rule, I'd say a middle-of-the-first-date kiss is a no-no, but then my other general rule is that you never let an opportunity go if it presents itself. It's not something you should expect or plan, but if the stars and moons align in a perfect situation, go for it. You should realize, however, that a middle-of-the-first-date kiss (even a more traditional end-of-the-first-date kiss) is a very tricky endevour. Even if she seemed interested in doing it at the time, she'll think about it afterwards and, before you get to your car, you are already in the "moved to fast" zone.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 Yeah, just wait until the end. I would think that's a little odd, unless the situation just seemed to be right, i.e. stars and moon aligned etc. I like that you asked her for the second date before the date ended. That must mean that you definitely want to see her again, and you must feel pretty confident that she feels the same way.
Author Mydish1 Posted October 26, 2008 Author Posted October 26, 2008 Yeah, just wait until the end. I would think that's a little odd, unless the situation just seemed to be right, i.e. stars and moon aligned etc. I like that you asked her for the second date before the date ended. That must mean that you definitely want to see her again, and you must feel pretty confident that she feels the same way. Haha, well she had an excuse and it sounded reasonable to me. But I'll call her up tomorrow.
carhill Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 Context matters too. If she's someone you've just met, that's one thing. If you've known each other a long time and this happens to be a "change" for you, it's quite another. The familiarity combined with newfound chemistry can create a totally different dynamic. Next time, after you kiss her at the end of the date, say softly "I'll call you tomorrow" while gazing into her eyes before you go. This tells her you're thinking ahead and taking affirmative action. This promotes security and invites her to think about the kiss, your words and to anticipate your call. It's not a game (because you mean it) but it does engage her emotions if she's interested in you and that does matter.
Shygirl15 Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 The best way to make a woman want you so bad is to avoid kissing her on first date.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 The best way to make a woman want you so bad is to avoid kissing her on first date. Agreed. Keep her a little off balance! But just a little.
Trialbyfire Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 You can't generalize women. Some like it, others don't. Some men have the knack for knowing the exact moment to do so from picking up clues. Spend less time generalizing and more time focusing on the woman's body language. Let the moment take you.
yongyong Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 it really depends on her mood. after good conversation at coffee, I sat with her in my car and put some music. I was grabbing her hand and touching her hair. I could definitely see that she wanted a kiss. If I just let it go because I was nerveous, I was gonna be a pxssy. I just grabbed her head and finished. If you do it next time, make it short and don't forget to say 'this is all you gonna get tonight' women like a guy who can throw them against a wall and can give them heavy kiss when the time is right........
Rooster_DAR Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 The best way to make a woman want you so bad is to avoid kissing her on first date. Exactly, the idea is to have her into you enough where you can tell she really wants affirmative action. Trust your real feelings, it's not hard to tell when a woman is into you enough to afford her lips. Cheers!
Isolde Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 I thought if a guy didn't kiss on the first date, he wasn't that into you. I agree it is more romantic to wait, but these days people often don't wait, so it makes it confusing to tell if he likes you or not
prettybaby Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 I had a guy kissing me in the middle of our first date. It took me by surprise, but oh my God, he was an awesome kisser! Since then, I just go by my feelings. If I'm really attracted, then screw the rules, he can kiss me whenever lol
The Collector Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 women like a guy who can throw them against a wall and can give them heavy kiss when the time is right........ Quoted for truth. Especially the throwing against the wall bit. But the when the time is right bit is also crucial.
Ruby Slippers Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 women like a guy who can throw them against a wall and can give them heavy kiss when the time is right........ I cannot argue with this. My last guy just... consumed me with the first kiss. It was so hot.
the_blur Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 I know some girls don't mind at all if things are going well and you kiss them mid-date. Funny you should mention that because I did just that last night. This all depends on when YOU want it. Control the outcome. If you think that you want this girl right now, just lean in and do it. Life's too f*ckin short. If she says no, great. Now you know. Go to the next girl. Her hangups about "rules" and all that bull**** are her own. There's plenty of nice girls out there that will not subject what should be a wonderful, spontaneous experience to a ****ty "dating script".
Green Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 I don't think its ever bad to go for this kiss I mean the face cheek thing that happened to you is a classic reaction of a girl who is about to be kissed who doesn't want to be. Personaly I'm so quick and smooth that I could kiss a girl on the lips no problem even if she hated me and then get smacked in the face... haha get quicker and more nija like with your kisses and you'll never get face cheeked again. And it doesn't mean you struck out with her she really might want to go out again so don't put that into ur decision making process.
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