street38 Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 I am 39 and she is 38. I would think i am to old to be feeling so heart broken. She says I broke her heart when I wanted to take a break from our relationship. I was going through a tuff time with my buisness and thought I would concentrate on that. Insteed I got depressed about the whole situation and just sat around filling sorry for myself. She was upset with the break but still tried to keep us together. Asked if she could come over and asked if I could babysit her daughter. Which I did. I did not want to end the relationship just wanted a break to sit around and feel sorry for myself. I think she new I was going through a tuff time. I did not tell her. I tried to act like everything was fine. We talked on the phone some. Not as much as usual but we talked. I guess two or three weeks had gone by and the phone calls became farther and farther apart. I called one day to see how she was doing and asked if she was ok with the break and she said it had given her sometime to think. Then procided to tell me that there was nothing good in our relationship exept sex. I said what are you talking about we have had some great times together. I then said do you want to end the relationship. She said we will talk about it later. She said I love you and let me go. I tried to call her the next two nights with no answer. I found out she was going out with the guy she left for me two years ago. She finaly returned me phone call and said that we should go our seperate ways. I just don't get it.I told her she was breaking my heart and she said you broke mine awhile back. I tried to email her and tell her how I felt and she was angry and sad she has moved on and i don't know how to tell you to deal with your pain. She said she was already in a comitted relationship and that the were going to try and work things out. We had been looking at houses a couple months before and talking about marriage. I don't get it. She says the marriage would have not worked out anyway. She said we had a pretty good run at it for awhile. Can anybody shed some light on this for me.
selena_cat Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 sorry to hear about your situation, Street. You know what everyone here is going to recommend and that is for you to go on NC, No Contact, you may not want to do it feeling that you can do something to salvage your relationship. However,this is the best time to do it, do not to call/email,txt.IM,in other words Leave her alone its like going Cold Turkey,ut reeks but you have to try to go on with your life unless She wants to give it another try. Also, that sounded iffy,someone saying the only good thing in the relationship was the sex, as if you are some sort of object,thats cold. Just my opinion. All the best to you
Author street38 Posted October 26, 2008 Author Posted October 26, 2008 I forgot to say that when she broke it of in me she did say she would still like to be friends. The last email was I hope we can keep this on good terms so when I see you at your favorite store we can say hi. I said sure and told her I wanted no more emails from her. That was three nights ago. Still have nc.
Author street38 Posted October 26, 2008 Author Posted October 26, 2008 Also how could she go back to a guy she went out with for two months that she wanted out of. She left him two years ago for me?
selena_cat Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 i wonder if you see a pattern,she left the guy for you and now she leaves you for him,am I correct? She wont commit to either of you, i wouldnt fall for the lets be friends crap,he wants you in that backburner. You deserve better
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