quankanne Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 pah! it's called "the grass is greener on the other side of the fence syndrome," and it's screwed up the lives of many decent folks. Unfortunately, you'll have to go through heartache and pain to get to this realization, since you're the one living the situation.
JustBreathe Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 OH so they don't know about the physical part. Well now that's a whole different matter. Who cares so long as your clueless spouse doesn't know. What morons betrayed spouses are. Like mushrooms, they live in the dark! How is it they don't instinctively know their spouse is lying to them after living with the spouse for a decade?
Island Girl Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 What morons betrayed spouses are. Like mushrooms, they live in the dark! How is it they don't instinctively know their spouse is lying to them after living with the spouse for a decade? I hope you are being facetious but it doesn't come off that way to me. It sounds as though you are blaming the victim which is terrible.
JustBreathe Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 OMG!!! Did I really come off like that, Island Girl! I was being facetious in an effort to help scarjo see that her husband is not an idiot and he will figure her out. He's got his antennas up now and he's looking. Just like I was. And I caught him red-handed with a hidden email account. It's pretty easy to catch a cheater if you know what you're doing and are looking for it. I trusted my gut, not him, and I was right.
Island Girl Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 OMG!!! Did I really come off like that, Island Girl! I was being facetious in an effort to help scarjo see that her husband is not an idiot and he will figure her out. He's got his antennas up now and he's looking. Just like I was. And I caught him red-handed with a hidden email account. It's pretty easy to catch a cheater if you know what you're doing and are looking for it. I trusted my gut, not him, and I was right. It did to me, perhaps not to others but thank you for the clarification. Once red flags go up one can look for more info. But sometimes those flags do not get raised until the damage is pretty deep. We are supposed to be able to trust our spouse after all and most people WANT to be able to completely trust at least one person in this world, right? That is why this kind of betrayal is so horrible, back handed, disgraceful, selfish, etc. One can go on and on...
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