Author CandyGirlXO Posted October 28, 2008 Author Posted October 28, 2008 You see I wanted that in the confindes of a model relationship. Aint ever gonna happen though. So now I'm just gonna settle for sex minus the hassle of relationships and love. Though there's no such thing as love. Sometimes I think the same thing, but I hope to God that I am wrong.
Vertex Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 I can tell you from experience that a relationship that is primarily oriented around sex is so empty and lonely. My ex-girlfriend and I had a relationship that was like this. All she wanted to do was have sex. That might be cool for a lot of guys, but I want something a little deeper than that.
Author CandyGirlXO Posted October 28, 2008 Author Posted October 28, 2008 You see I wanted that in the confindes of a model relationship. Aint ever gonna happen though. So now I'm just gonna settle for sex minus the hassle of relationships and love. Though there's no such thing as love. I can tell you from experience that a relationship that is primarily oriented around sex is so empty and lonely. My ex-girlfriend and I had a relationship that was like this. All she wanted to do was have sex. That might be cool for a lot of guys, but I want something a little deeper than that. Awww vertex finally a nice guy! I thought they didn't exist. Well here I am. That is what I want too.
Constant Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 I wanted what Vertex wanted, but it doesn't work out like that. Women just don't work like that from the ones I've been with. Forgive me for losing all hope of finding a "nice woman".
Vertex Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 Oh crap did I just get labeled as a "nice guy" O.o Damn it Constant: It's a balancing act, I think. You can't let a girl walk all over you, but you can't be a controlling ass, either. Being on either end of the spectrum is usually a recipe for eventual disaster. Both types of people tend to have different types of relationships, but each type is usually lacking in something important. Jumping ship from one end of the spectrum to the other is not going to help you much, most likely.
rod_in_gtown Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 Sometimes I think the same thing, but I hope to God that I am wrong. You are wrong, I did find such a thing known as love once. however, I foolishly let her go without asking her to stay (she was here in the US in an internship). I found out recently that if I'd asked her to stay she would have, because she actually loved me very deeply. Ironically enough she's been the only girlfriend my sister has ever liked. She's a great judge of character and whenever she's warned me about girls, she's infallibly right. It's almost scary... she also has visions in her dreams, I think she's got some sort of weird sixth sense. But back on topic, Love exists, you just have to make sure that when you find it you don't let it go.
Mahatma Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 Get out of your circle of friends and make new ones. Quit being flirty and maybe quit being so nice. Nice attractive guys = friends Nice attractive females = sex toys that get walked over. I have no idea what your personality is like, but I do think I remember a thread about you and breast implants? If you thought you were having a problem about being used as a sex toy, making yourself more plastic-like was probably not the best idea ever... Also, people emit certain personality qualities. If you have a lack of intelligence or lack of being able to converse on an equal level with a male, they will view you as a "lesser" being. I am no Freud, but I certainly know what it takes for me to respect a girl. I personally can not just use a girl for sex because I find meaningless sex boring. Some guys like the game. Possibly what you should do is instead of trying to fix yourself, is try to fix the types of guys you choose to pursue or hang around. PS: I acknowledge I do not know you, so it may be the case where nothing I said pertains to you. Do not take anything personally.
Author CandyGirlXO Posted October 29, 2008 Author Posted October 29, 2008 Get out of your circle of friends and make new ones. Quit being flirty and maybe quit being so nice. Nice attractive guys = friends Nice attractive females = sex toys that get walked over. I have no idea what your personality is like, but I do think I remember a thread about you and breast implants? If you thought you were having a problem about being used as a sex toy, making yourself more plastic-like was probably not the best idea ever... Also, people emit certain personality qualities. If you have a lack of intelligence or lack of being able to converse on an equal level with a male, they will view you as a "lesser" being. I am no Freud, but I certainly know what it takes for me to respect a girl. I personally can not just use a girl for sex because I find meaningless sex boring. Some guys like the game. Possibly what you should do is instead of trying to fix yourself, is try to fix the types of guys you choose to pursue or hang around. PS: I acknowledge I do not know you, so it may be the case where nothing I said pertains to you. Do not take anything personally. Yes I agree. I have always noticed that all the bitchy girls find great guys. Kind of like how guys say all girls like jerks. Well I don't, that's why I left my EX. I understand what you are saying about my implants but I don't tell people about them. I don't meet a guy and say, "Hi, I'm CandyGirl and I have implants.". These guys have no idea. That's no different then if I were born with c cups. I also have a bachelors degree, and I put myself through college while working full time so I don't think my intelligence has anything to do with it, but maybe. I do have my moments but don't we all?
rod_in_gtown Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 Yeah I know nice guys must think that, but I don't think that myself. I have never gone up to a guy I was interested in, I just always wait until they pursue me. So that is the problem, I am shy. As far as physical I really don't have a certain type. I have dated all races from hispanic, black, white, and asian. As far as behavior I just want a nice guy who is funny, kind, understanding, accomplished, and just sincere. Well, some level of shyness is actually very cute so don't entirely lose that, just make sure it doesn't come off as snobbish, smiling will help you avoid that, I'm sure you have a great smile. However, you would be surprised as to the response you would get from guys if you were to just approach them and say hi. We LOVE that. Plus that will actually help your confidence more than implants ever will (I think).
katherinev87 Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 OP, have you ever considered removing yourself entirely from these types of situations. From what I'm reading, it sounds as if alot of these things are happening in a bar-type atmosphere. I too had this problem...guys would be all over me, grope my boobs (although mine are real...) and ass, try to take me home, etc. I have also been molested by a so-called boyfriend. I totally get what you're going through. What I finally did (and I can't believe it took me this long to figure out...) was to stop putting myself in places that I knew these things would happen...aka, bars, clubs, etc. I have girlfriends constantly pressuring me to go out...I've stood firm, and told them that I'm 'off bars and drinking' for a while. It's coming up to 6 months now....and it's getting easier to say no. Before I made this decision...I thought "where am I supposed to meet guys, if not for a bar?". But the guys you meet in these kinds of places, are the kinds of guys that are doing, and will continue to do these innapropriate things to you. Those are just my thoughts....Good Luck!
Author CandyGirlXO Posted October 29, 2008 Author Posted October 29, 2008 Well, some level of shyness is actually very cute so don't entirely lose that, just make sure it doesn't come off as snobbish, smiling will help you avoid that, I'm sure you have a great smile. However, you would be surprised as to the response you would get from guys if you were to just approach them and say hi. We LOVE that. Plus that will actually help your confidence more than implants ever will (I think). Thanks, that is great advice. I will try it sometime
Author CandyGirlXO Posted October 29, 2008 Author Posted October 29, 2008 OP, have you ever considered removing yourself entirely from these types of situations. From what I'm reading, it sounds as if alot of these things are happening in a bar-type atmosphere. I too had this problem...guys would be all over me, grope my boobs (although mine are real...) and ass, try to take me home, etc. I have also been molested by a so-called boyfriend. I totally get what you're going through. What I finally did (and I can't believe it took me this long to figure out...) was to stop putting myself in places that I knew these things would happen...aka, bars, clubs, etc. I have girlfriends constantly pressuring me to go out...I've stood firm, and told them that I'm 'off bars and drinking' for a while. It's coming up to 6 months now....and it's getting easier to say no. Before I made this decision...I thought "where am I supposed to meet guys, if not for a bar?". But the guys you meet in these kinds of places, are the kinds of guys that are doing, and will continue to do these innapropriate things to you. Those are just my thoughts....Good Luck! This is also a good idea, you are right I already now that I probably won't find a potential mate at a bar/club.
Vertex Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 I put myself through college while working full time so I don't think my intelligence has anything to do with it, but maybe. I do have my moments but don't we all? Mad respect for this -- this is very hard to do.
Author CandyGirlXO Posted October 29, 2008 Author Posted October 29, 2008 Mad respect for this -- this is very hard to do. Thank you I really appreciate that
Mahatma Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 I also have a bachelors degree, and I put myself through college while working full time so I don't think my intelligence has anything to do with it, but maybe. I do have my moments but don't we all? As before, this may not pertain to you. I know plenty of girls who are intelligent, however they dumb themselves down because they think its "cute." I noticed this trait in a lot of girls in my high school. Since you have put yourself through school, you are probably much older than these girls. I think and hope it is something these girls grow out of. Be sure you display your intelligence. If your implants are not totally noticeable or too big for you, then those would not really have too much of an effect on how guys treat you. It is the women who get them and flaunt them that come off as just wanting to be a sex toy. I do not think that is you.
Vertex Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 Personally, I go absolutely crazy over smart girls -- more so than girls who are simply attractive.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 Calling the OP vain and idiotic Hunh??? When did I call the OP vain and idiotic?? Please read the posts.
inlovewithlove Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 Sorry I didn't finish my post. I am not a tease or really even a flirt. I think I was used for sex because he ****ed me then broke up with me the very next day after 2 years. Thrown out like a piece of trash. It really hurts Guys don't try to talk to me about who I am what I like. It's always about sex. They don't see me as a person. I have never had a true guy friend. My friends hate me when we go out because I get the attention and they are mean to me. But they have real conversations with guys, I never do. I have been molested for years by 2 different guys as well. And I have been raped once by a "friend" What can I do? Shave your head...my high school girlfriend did that when she moved to college so guys wouldn't hit on her. You could also learn how to say "no". That usually works.
Author CandyGirlXO Posted October 29, 2008 Author Posted October 29, 2008 Shave your head...my high school girlfriend did that when she moved to college so guys wouldn't hit on her. You could also learn how to say "no". That usually works. Yes I say no all the time I have slept with very few guys. I can count on one hand. Yeah maybe I will shave my head.
inlovewithlove Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 Sorry, I guess some guys just don't listen. But, being sexy isn't a curse...and I'm sure you can find ways to live a good life even though you're easy on the eyes...plus I'm sure a lot of women would trade you places. Oh, and guys are idiots...myself included. Don't let us drag ya down. Dress down...don't put on makeup...don't hang out in clubs...do things you enjoy, and you'll meet people with similar interests. What are your interests? Maybe you can find fun things to do that will bring you into contact with people who are more interested in your interests than your rack. But, if you're not somewhere you can use your personality...then all you have are looks. Most people aren't even that lucky.
inlovewithlove Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 All you have to do to see how lucky you actually have it is to look at the thread "I'm the guy girls don't want to $%@". Now, there's someone with a problem. A problem most guys have from one time to another. A problem most girls have no idea about. Don't wear makeup, don't dress up, don't hang out in bars, do what you like to do, follow your interests, and you'll find meaningful relationships. And be glad you didn't post the thread "I'm the girl guys don't want to %^#"...cause you can always dress down, but ugly is hard to hide.
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