juliemanooli Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 My boyfriend broke up with me about 3 weeks ago. It wasnt a mutual thing. I didnt know it was coming. I didnt want it to happen but I couldnt stop it. we agreed to be "friends", but for some reason, its really hard for the both of us. For the first 4 days, we didnt talk or see eachother. But then I texted him on his birthday, to wish him a good one. And then I told him that when i agreed to be friends, i actually meant it. He told me he agreed and he didnt like the avoiding thing either. So then we were "cool". for two weeks, we didnt talk. just a hi whenever i see him. but then he starts acting strange. like.. avoiding me again, dirty looks, ect. I asked him through a text message if it was something I did to him? he replied with "ive been really mad. first you told someone that we were going to date again in 2 weeks. Then you're trying to become best friends with my friends. And i dont know if its because youre trying to find a new boyfriend or what... And the shirt you wore to the football game friday pretty much said rape me on it." I WAS SO MAD. I havent talked to him in 2 weeks. and the first time we talk again, it turns out to be an argument. first off, why does he care about what i wear? what is he my father? He also thought that i was seeeking revenge on him by being friends with his friends. he took it the wrong way. he saw me walking out to the parking lot with one of his friends, and he got mad. he said it looks like im trying to make him jealous. why the hell does he care so much as to what i do? So, i told him to grow a pair and get over himself. I said "okay seriously, my whole life doesnt revolve around you so stop thinking that everything i do is a way to get you to notice me. I am OVER us. I dont ever think about you, and i'm not try to seek revenge or win you back. I just wanted to be friends, and you're going insane" (true story is, im not over him, at all. but im a good liar.) The next day, everything was back to normal? he walks by, says hi, smiles. ect ect. Weird, because i was really harsh on him the night before. we still never carried on conversations. then, the following friday, my school had the last home football game. I'm on the dance team, so i had to go to dance. I didnt expect to see him, because usually he goes to the other football game at the other school. but he was there. and he was staring at me dancing. When i was finished, i walked up to the stands to say hello to my group of friends. he was there, because of course, we had the same set of friends. He didnt say hi to me, and i wasnt gonna make an effort either if he was gonna be a butthole. Then came halftime, and i danced again. When i came back, i looked at my phone and he sent me a message. another argument. "why have you been telling people that i want to go to a different school because i cant date any of your friends? and why are you telling everyone i dont like your friends? thats bull****" At this point, i was laughing. this is ridiculous. He was standing about 2 meters away from me, yet he couldnt pull me aside and talk to me. he had to text me. I walked off the stands, and texted him "come here now so we can talk". and he didnt. he was afraid to face me. Based on what my friends said, it looked like i was about to kill someone. he goes "nevermind, ellen cleared it up. its over. i dont care anymore." I never replied back. and I left the game early. He ruined that night for me. Ellen is one of my best friends who yelled at him for believing what everyone was saying to him. Its sad that he's known me for so long, he should know the kind of person i am. He should know that i wouldnt say those things. Yet he believes it. Everything we say to eachother turns out to be an argument. Why? Can someone please tell me what is wrong with him?
Ruby Slippers Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 And the shirt you wore to the football game friday pretty much said rape me on it." Wow, that's an ******* comment. He can't make it work with you, but he's obviously very jealous at the idea of you with another guy. I think you need to go NC (no contact) for a while. You don't just snap your fingers and get over someone. You need time to let go, and seeing him/her all the time makes that more difficult.
carhill Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 Teenage drama, the inside version The good news is you'll both grow out of it and hopefully look back upon it with some humor. IMO, this is all part of learning about relationships. This may come as a shock, but others may wonder "what is wrong with <her>?" too. The biggest mistake you can make is believing that you never make mistakes. You have no control over what he does or says, rather only what you say and do. It will define you
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