Loss 4 words Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 So i decided to take my g/f back after she cheated on me...yeah i know bad move....but whatever...we're both happy for the most. (read my previous threads on the forum.)--we found more good than bad with us. BUT--I found out that she's still logging onto her dating website page (yeeah, i did a lil snooping, but can you blame me...??) and she's still logging into her page often enough to cause me concern....but it does say that she's looking for women and friends...she's thinking of bringing in another woman into the relationship...not that i'm opposed, just concerned and i've told her this.....she tells me i have nothing to worry about....do I or am i just paranoid??
Tony T Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 So i decided to take my g/f back after she cheated on me...yeah i know bad move....but whatever...we're both happy for the most. (read my previous threads on the forum.)--we found more good than bad with us. BUT--I found out that she's still logging onto her dating website page (yeeah, i did a lil snooping, but can you blame me...??) and she's still logging into her page often enough to cause me concern....but it does say that she's looking for women and friends...she's thinking of bringing in another woman into the relationship...not that i'm opposed, just concerned and i've told her this.....she tells me i have nothing to worry about....do I or am i just paranoid?? You really have nothing to say in the matter. What she does with her personal life is her business, especially now that you know about this. You can either accept it and be happy or break up with her. I, personally, would not feel good about a lady who had cheated on me previously frequenting a dating site. You say she decided to look for a female to join in the fun WITHOUT asking you first. I don't see this relationship lasting a very long time. Most men wouldn't have taken her back and certainly wouldn't put up with her going to a dating site after putting you through everything she's put you through. You must be a glutton for punishment. I don't even know why you posted here because you don't care about the answers. You've really got to be into this chick...but, until you are ready, you won't believe she's using you, playing you, and having you around until something better comes along. She hasn't grown up yet and she has a LOT of play remaining in her. How else could the two of you just be getting along "great" for the most part and then she goes and cheats on you...and now she's a regular on a dating site. DUH!
Geishawhelk Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 Lost4words, do you see the irony with your signature....? basically, you need to lighten up and look to yourself.... can you look in the mirror and be happy with what you're looking at? If not, do something positive. As Tony says, posting and moaning and complaining and ranting and griping is all very well - if you follow through. But if all you do is that, then just add some more, it's not exactly productive.... Where's the 'progress'.....?
sandrawg Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 I just read your previous post. This woman is a liar, a cheat, and hides things from you. Do you want to go crazy? you will, eventually, if you stay with this woman. Also, read my post about trust issues. Once someone lies to you it is very hard to not subsequently question everything that comes out of their mouth. That's why I'm saying-it's a recipe for insanity.
You'reasian Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 So i decided to take my g/f back after she cheated on me...yeah i know bad move....but whatever...we're both happy for the most. (read my previous threads on the forum.)--we found more good than bad with us. BUT--I found out that she's still logging onto her dating website page (yeeah, i did a lil snooping, but can you blame me...??) and she's still logging into her page often enough to cause me concern....but it does say that she's looking for women and friends...she's thinking of bringing in another woman into the relationship...not that i'm opposed, just concerned and i've told her this.....she tells me i have nothing to worry about....do I or am i just paranoid?? Either accept the fact that she's bi or move on from the relationship.
Author Loss 4 words Posted October 26, 2008 Author Posted October 26, 2008 Either accept the fact that she's bi or move on from the relationship. Like I said, that part DOESN'T bother me....
TigerCub Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 Hey Loss4Words... This girl obviously has no consideration for you. Not only did she cheat on you, but when you take her back, she still goes on these dating websites. She says she wants to bring another lady into the picture - but she's looking without even having talked to you about it first - again, obviously she doesn't give a crap about what you think, want or feel. Also, your relationship with her is so rocky, I just don't think it would be the wisest thing to bring someone else into the relationship. I mean if you're really expecting to have a long term relationship with your girl (and I don't know why you would), adding another person is actually gonna destroy your relationship. BUT...If you really finally see that your girl is just a selfish whore, let her bring in this new girl, you can all have a threesome, then dump her, and that could be your farewell and F you to her...
sandrawg Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 Also, your relationship with her is so rocky, I just don't think it would be the wisest thing to bring someone else into the relationship. I mean if you're really expecting to have a long term relationship with your girl (and I don't know why you would), adding another person is actually gonna destroy your relationship. BUT...If you really finally see that your girl is just a selfish whore, let her bring in this new girl, you can all have a threesome, then dump her, and that could be your farewell and F you to her... Ah ha ha ha ha ha!!!! I like this advice. If I were him, I'd be tempted to bring in the other girl, then tell her he's falling for the other chick and dump her. That'd be kind of cruel but no more cruel than the stuff she's pulled on him.
sandrawg Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 Like I said, that part DOESN'T bother me.... Right! The part that bothers you is that she's a liar and a cheat with no regard or respect for your feelings or your relationship. That is obvious. This is not something minor that would bother you, like not squeezing the toothpaste at the bottom, ok? This is a major lack of character and ethics she's showing. You deserve better, dontcha think??
You'reasian Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 she's looking for women and friends...she's thinking of bringing in another woman into the relationship...not that i'm opposed, just concerned and i've told her this.....she tells me i have nothing to worry about....do I or am i just paranoid?? Sounds like you are concerened about her bringing a woman into your relationship. If it bothers you, bring it up and tell her that this is getting into bad territory.
In Like Flynn Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 Sounds like a healthy relationship:sick:.....Good Luck!!!
Author Loss 4 words Posted November 1, 2008 Author Posted November 1, 2008 Ah ha ha ha ha ha!!!! I like this advice. If I were him, I'd be tempted to bring in the other girl, then tell her he's falling for the other chick and dump her. That'd be kind of cruel but no more cruel than the stuff she's pulled on him. I'm not know for my cruelty...yet I AM known for breaking up through email...that's not cruel is it ?? LOL I don't truely believe in being a jerk about anything but at the same time I can only take so much until I break....broke once and stayed still...but I guess that's what make us human and that we learn (sometimes) from our mistakes in life. Right! The part that bothers you is that she's a liar and a cheat with no regard or respect for your feelings or your relationship. That is obvious. This is not something minor that would bother you, like not squeezing the toothpaste at the bottom, ok? This is a major lack of character and ethics she's showing. You deserve better, dontcha think?? I squeeze my toothpaste in the middle anyways...but all joking aside, the longer that i'm with her, the more and more i wanna just explode in a burst of anger about any and everything that's on my mind...from the lack of communication to the comments she makes "jokingly" to me about having another girlfriend on the side, getting with her cousin (who openly flirts with me around her), and the inate fear of me walking away because of her kids, etc...all the while i've asked her to cease and discist from making the the "other girlfriend" comment...so now i've moved onto joing in and making them back (that i DO have on and that she has another BF)....but she's not finding them as funny as she finds the one's she makes..... Sounds like you are concerened about her bringing a woman into your relationship. If it bothers you' date=' bring it up and tell her that this is getting into bad territory.[/quote'] Like I've said, I have but as far as i know, it's still up.... she jsut kinda shrugs it off like i'm joking.... Things for my g/f and I have gone from "when" to "if i'm still around"--half joking, half serious at times........
InLimbo2 Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 Uh, just because it says that doesn't mean that those are the only people she's getting contact from BUT--I found out that she's still logging onto her dating website page (yeeah, i did a lil snooping, but can you blame me...??) and she's still logging into her page often enough to cause me concern....but it does say that she's looking for women and friends...
Author Loss 4 words Posted November 2, 2008 Author Posted November 2, 2008 Uh, just because it says that doesn't mean that those are the only people she's getting contact from She has it setup so that only certian people can message her...so it does mean that those are the only people that can contact her..
Dark-N-Romantic Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 You might be a little paranoid and rightly so and if she REALLY cared for your feelings and wanted to make amends, the first thing she would of done was take off that profile or at least show you it. You taking her back IS NOT a bad thing. But, it is obvious you two are going to have to work on a lot of trust and fidelity issues. DNR
Author Loss 4 words Posted November 2, 2008 Author Posted November 2, 2008 You might be a little paranoid and rightly so and if she REALLY cared for your feelings and wanted to make amends, the first thing she would of done was take off that profile or at least show you it. You taking her back IS NOT a bad thing. But, it is obvious you two are going to have to work on a lot of trust and fidelity issues. DNR Definitely we'll have issues for some time to come. Just tonight we had another 'spat' and again i wanted to throw my hands up and give up.....but i don't quit that easily. I knew that she kept the profile up but didnt know that she changed from "looking for men to looking for women"....that kinda threw me off a bit.... Let's also say that i'm NOT stupid and have a keen ability to notice small stuff (like having a "different email" logged in and small things like that) and ability to read people's emotions and actions based on them....wish i wasn't as good as i am with it....some people are easier to read than others....
Author Loss 4 words Posted November 10, 2008 Author Posted November 10, 2008 Update!!! We talked and we both agreed that we should delete our profiles...yes, i kept one but never logged on since i was with her...only to change it.... As of this post both are deleted !!
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