ReggaeLover Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 I've quite recently developed a crush on a girl that I do not know very well. It's embarrassing for me because I usually wait to get to know a person before I develop feelings for them. We've been in the same school for several years but I had never really talked to her until recently when I added her on myspace. We've been talking on msn a lot and every now and then when we meet up in the corridors and I've realized she's a really kind, nice girl. That was probably when I realized I had a crush on her. The main problems were that we were in different friendship groups, so I wasn't really able to hang out with her. School is over now, and the only time I'll ever see her again in a formal setting is for exams next month. I'm a little sad that I likely won't see her again and would like to do something about it. I'm a bit worried about asking her out though. Would girls find it creepy if a guy they only began to know recently asked them on a date? I'm not even sure if I should bite the bullet and do it or just let it slide and wait till I find someone new at uni next year.
Geishawhelk Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 "Faint heart ne'er won fair lady...." "he who deliberates fully before taking a step will spend his entire life on one leg." Bite the bullet, grab the bull by the horns, grasp the nettle, and gird your loins..... (Ok, scrap the last idiom - !!) But send her a message and ask her if she'd like to go on a date! For goodness' sake, she can only say no, but hey! you're young, and it's not the end of the world! have fun, take risks and leap!
Lovegod Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 NEVER, EVER be embarassed about the desire you have for the opposite sex, even if it's just purely physical. That desire causes us to reproduce, and is purely part of human nature But send her a message and ask her if she'd like to go on a date! DO NOT ask her. Invite her. Let her know that you were thinking about going to xxxxx and say "you should come with me." Believe it or not, you'll get better reception than if you said "would you like to go out with me?" Would girls find it creepy if a guy they only began to know recently asked them on a date? Yes and no. It all depends on how you do it. Don't mention the word "date" and as I said above, invite her out instead of asking for permission to be with her. You create the dating environment while your out with her by using non-sexual touch. Solely by using your touch, she'll get the message loud and clear that you're interested in her. And I'm not talking about hugging or holding hands. I'm talking about touching her hair, her fingers, or even her back as you let her go through a doorway. Also, don't forget to go in for the kiss at the end of the first date or you'll leave her confused.
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