SoundTribe Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 I'm hoping some of you know my story. If you haven't, to make things short, my ex dumped me in early September and we've been NC since October 2nd. Today one of her friends from college put up a new album on facebook and it appeared on my minifeed. The photos were dated back to October 2nd at one of the first sorority mixers and my ex was making out with this guy in the 1 st photo. (This would have been hours after our fight and I started NC.) I know its none of my business what she does but it still hurts. I've always felt like she was out of my league and this makes me feel even more under-confident about myself. I feel like the minute I go to college (January) I will forget about her, because when I was at the same college as her I was flirting around too. I have a full time job but waiting around like I am now is just agonizing. Just wanted to share, all of my friends are out of state in college and are tired of hearing about her and I so I figured I'd share it with you guys.
UnamedSeven Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 I'm hoping some of you know my story. If you haven't, to make things short, my ex dumped me in early September and we've been NC since October 2nd. Today one of her friends from college put up a new album on facebook and it appeared on my minifeed. The photos were dated back to October 2nd at one of the first sorority mixers and my ex was making out with this guy in the 1 st photo. (This would have been hours after our fight and I started NC.) I know its none of my business what she does but it still hurts. I've always felt like she was out of my league and this makes me feel even more under-confident about myself. I feel like the minute I go to college (January) I will forget about her, because when I was at the same college as her I was flirting around too. I have a full time job but waiting around like I am now is just agonizing. Just wanted to share, all of my friends are out of state in college and are tired of hearing about her and I so I figured I'd share it with you guys. I'm really sorry to hear about everything. You can't expect to not be hurt by seeing your ex with someone, no matter how far it was away from when you and her broke up. I can't exactly suggest anything but this is kind of what happened to me. Only a little bit of my story is the same. To make it short, i got the girl i liked, with the boy she liked, my best friend. I thought that i would be happy from doing this, because she would be happy. So, here i am still watching the relationship grow (Since june) and hating every second of it. I'm still debating on ending my friendship with the girl only because i can't take her and him anymore.
northstar1 Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 I'm hoping some of you know my story. If you haven't, to make things short, my ex dumped me in early September and we've been NC since October 2nd. Today one of her friends from college put up a new album on facebook and it appeared on my minifeed. The photos were dated back to October 2nd at one of the first sorority mixers and my ex was making out with this guy in the 1 st photo. (This would have been hours after our fight and I started NC.) I know its none of my business what she does but it still hurts. I've always felt like she was out of my league and this makes me feel even more under-confident about myself. I feel like the minute I go to college (January) I will forget about her, because when I was at the same college as her I was flirting around too. I have a full time job but waiting around like I am now is just agonizing. Just wanted to share, all of my friends are out of state in college and are tired of hearing about her and I so I figured I'd share it with you guys. That hurts man, I'm sorry to hear that. You may want to either remove her friends, so you won't get these pictures, or stay away from the whole thing for a month or so.
Sysyphus28 Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 No obligation. After they break up with you, they have no obligation to you man. It is complete crap. It ha been for me. She has taken no responsibility for the pain she caused, She is slutting around and having a blast. The crap truth is.........she doesn't have to. She has no more obligation to you. If she was a good person she would have handled it better. But, you feel like a jackass.....guess what so do I. A big fool. Woman create comfort zones.........and it feels great to be comfortable. You just have to create your own comfort zone. Feed your own ego. Man-up and learn from this. This has been one of the hardest things i have ever done. MOve on. 6 weeks NC. Holy shi*. It is the longest we have never spoken. It has been excruciating for me. I have probably made it easier for her to move on too! But good. I don't need to be tagged as the needy ex, or the desperate ex, or the wishy-washy ex that didn't give up. If the end result/ NO MATTER WHAT/ is me not getting her back. Isn't NC the most logical way. I don't want my ex as my friend. I want her in my bed. Lets be real. Ok...she was a great person, but I loved her because of our romantic connection!! Not because we both like the same band. Its time dude. Its time to move on. I still come to this site because it makes me feel good and fills voids of time with positive input and SOLID ADVICE. If this is what it takes to move on, just keep coming here, you wil get sick of tired of being sick and tired eventually......... But at least you are not thinking that the B**** that is making out with some other guy a minute after you broke up is going to HELP you feel good. She isn't. She is what made you feel BAD. DO you get it. She hurt you!! She isn't a friend. She is an AS*****. A very large one at that. Man, I know you loved her. I really loved my ex. SHe was awesome. BUT, for whatever reason(and thier are always 5 million) she dumped me. I wasn't right for her.................... I can't make her love me again or get nostalgic. I would only create pain for myself and further resentment and pain for her if I called her. If she doesn't want me what can I do? A. try to impress her, buy her flowers, "ACT" like the old me when I really am broken up inside. B. Cry, call her and tell her how much she hurt me, guilt into hanging out with me( geez that sounds horrible) C. Don't call her, don't write her, don't text her, don't email her, Make it clear with silence that I am strong. AND even though she f-ed me over, I will be a MAN and not crawl on my hands and knees for her. Don't worry, your NC, will eventually affect her...but in a positive way. Like on a holiday. or a B-day. She will remember what you shared in a good light. You will too. Because you have not kept barking up the wrong tree.
EmperorR Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 Which is why you go NC, Like a Idiot i checked my ex FB when she txt me on what would have been our 3rd anniversary and I saw she is dating someone new already, I felt like crap for a while, now I don't care. At least it taught me a lesson, I blocked her on facebook, I'll never take a look again.
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