lynn650 Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 I'm in graduate school and recently met a great guy in one of my classes. Since we share several classes, we have been talking a lot lately. Several weeks ago, I began to notice that he was pretty obviously interested in me. He always seemed nervous when trying to make small talk, getting my number from facebook and using a rather silly excuse for his reason of calling, his friends (who I don't know) started gently picking on him when they notice he's talking to me and one day I was walking to class and happened to look over and see him walking very fast to try and catch up with me (cute!). I'm rather shy when it comes to being around guys that I like. I haven't had much luck with guys this past year and was very weary about coming on too strong or being rejected. So, sometimes when he catches me off guard and tries talk to me I kind of freak out and inadvertently blow him off. One day this week, I was walking with a friend down the hallway and he was walking down the hallway running the opposite direction that meets the hallway i was in. He saw me, did a double take, and stopped...as if he was waiting for me to walk up to him. Long story short, I ended up blowing him off and not even acknowledging his presence...all because I was too nervous to approach him...even though he was WAITING for me!!! Ughh. Anyway, I saw him the next day in the library and he completely blew me off. I'm sure he was upset about getting completely blown off the day before and I'm sure his ego was bruised. I wanted to do something to let him know that I was interested, so I sent him a text message wishing him a good weekend, etc...but I've received no response. Now I feel as if I've come on too strong. This was a little bold since we don't have the type of relationship where we are calling/texting one another yet. I just wanted to do something bold to show him that I am, in fact, interested. He seems to go out on a limb often, and I leave him hanging. Guys, have I completely blown it with this great guy? Is there anyway to recover from ridiculous incidents like these!?!? I really like him and really want a shot!
Cub Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 Nah. If he really likes you, that hallway thing probably drove him crazy. Maybe he blew you off in the library because he was busy... What happened?
carhill Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 Since you see him all the time, be quietly engaging. Eye contact. Smile. The next time he approaches you, use positive body language. Open yourself. Don't "blow him off" again. I smack you!
Author lynn650 Posted October 25, 2008 Author Posted October 25, 2008 oh, he wasn't busy...it was a blatant blow off. He approached me, his eyes met mine, I smiled....he looked away and sat at the opposite table. He's never done that before
monkey00 Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 I'm in graduate school and recently met a great guy in one of my classes. Since we share several classes, we have been talking a lot lately. Several weeks ago, I began to notice that he was pretty obviously interested in me. He always seemed nervous when trying to make small talk, getting my number from facebook and using a rather silly excuse for his reason of calling, his friends (who I don't know) started gently picking on him when they notice he's talking to me and one day I was walking to class and happened to look over and see him walking very fast to try and catch up with me (cute!). I'm rather shy when it comes to being around guys that I like. I haven't had much luck with guys this past year and was very weary about coming on too strong or being rejected. So, sometimes when he catches me off guard and tries talk to me I kind of freak out and inadvertently blow him off. One day this week, I was walking with a friend down the hallway and he was walking down the hallway running the opposite direction that meets the hallway i was in. He saw me, did a double take, and stopped...as if he was waiting for me to walk up to him. Long story short, I ended up blowing him off and not even acknowledging his presence...all because I was too nervous to approach him...even though he was WAITING for me!!! Ughh. Anyway, I saw him the next day in the library and he completely blew me off. I'm sure he was upset about getting completely blown off the day before and I'm sure his ego was bruised. I wanted to do something to let him know that I was interested, so I sent him a text message wishing him a good weekend, etc...but I've received no response. Now I feel as if I've come on too strong. This was a little bold since we don't have the type of relationship where we are calling/texting one another yet. I just wanted to do something bold to show him that I am, in fact, interested. He seems to go out on a limb often, and I leave him hanging. Guys, have I completely blown it with this great guy? Is there anyway to recover from ridiculous incidents like these!?!? I really like him and really want a shot! Sorry but it won't really work at all. Everytime in the past that I've met a girl who I knew liked me but kept playing hard to get or acting cold never worked out. They just weren't confident enough or mature enough to play it cool and be real with me...and I lost interest. I don't think you're coming on strong at all...but what you're doing is sending mixed signals, playing games even. Guys and girls both do not like to be on the receiving end of hot and cold games. I think since you're the one that blew him off most of the time, I think you're going to have to make more of an effort now to show him you are interested.
Author lynn650 Posted October 27, 2008 Author Posted October 27, 2008 Thank you all for the input. I think I definitely blew it, he didn't even acknowledge my existence today.
carhill Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 OK, lesson learned. Next time you feel that way, push through the shyness to be receptive. There will be a next time
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