sid3 Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 I'm curious if single moms find it difficult to find dates. I realise the priority as a parent should always be the child(ren), but as far as dating goes, I'm assuming just because a woman has a child or two doesn't mean she's no longer interested in meeting a pontential partner, companion, or at the least a fun date. I'm sure there are a lot of both men and women that would instantly disqualifiy a person because they were a parent, I'm just wondering if it happens a lot.
BlueHarvest Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 Well it is certainly more difficult as a single mom to date then it is just a single female. You have to find a *good* babysitter/child care specialist (PC term ) is usually one of the biggest stoppers.
popey Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 I have known a few men who said they were not interested in dating a woman who had kid(s). But I think they are not the majority. In fact, I once dated a guy who was about 10 yrs my senior, divorced w/ 2 kids. You could tell he was a very involved father. I am single, never married. After the 2nd date, he very respectfully told me that he enjoyed our time, but he doesn't think we think we relate enough b/c I don't have kids. Even at the time, I appreciated this event. Not that I'm shocked it could happen, but its just SO not the stereotypical 40-something dater trying to recapture his youth w/ a younger woman who (at the time) went out every night, hanging w/ a bunch of single friends, etc. He wanted a relationship w/ someone who he felt could sincerely relate to how important his kids were in his life, and the things that are on his mind most.
bobdole Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 When looking on an online dating site I think most men (atleast sub 30-35) look for women with no kids. I think you would have the best chances just meeting men in person, not telling him you have kids (if it doesn't come up, if so then be honest) until atleast 2-3 dates. Give him a little time to get to know you before you spring the kids on him.
amaysngrace Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 When looking on an online dating site I think most men (atleast sub 30-35) look for women with no kids. Give him a little time to get to know you before you spring the kids on him. My BF met me when I had my kids with me. So he knew the deal from day one. I agree about the age thing. He never dated anyone with kids before me. You just have to take it slow before introductions if it happens to work that way. Nowadays there's almost the same amount of men with kids as there are women with kids, aren't there? I mean it takes two.
trubella Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 i've never found it to be difficult to date, maybe when my son was younger but now that he's school aged i had more free time on my hands, currently IAR now, i've always been upfront about my son, but i also learned not to talk to much about my son when i did go on dates, seems to be an instant turn off for men who realize they will be at the bottom list of your priorities. it is best to find a balance, not to mention a good babysitter.
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