xaslovegoes Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 My ex and I dated for a year and broke up in july. We were good friends for three years before we dated. After we ended things we had a couple of hurtful conversations. And I cut off contact for about three months. We started talking again (my doing) and have very quickly formed a good friendship to a point where we are now texting on occassion. He was a mess for the three months of not speaking. We work together dso we saw eachother every day and I saw him falling apart. I didn't think much of it because he chose the breakup not me. I decided it wasn't worth losing him totally just because we couldn't be together. So initiated a conversation and we've progressed to a good place. Ever since this has happened everyone has commented that he's been so much happier. He even made an off comment in front of me about how unhappy he was but was getting better. I feel like we both know there is still a capacity to be together but certain things need to change before it will work. I feel like its his move because he chose the break up. But now I feel likeits evened out. What should I do to keep this progress moving? I know we can't get together right now. But it seems like the neccessary changes are being made and if they do occur in the future I would be open for giving it a second try. its more confusion than anything else. Any advice?
Author xaslovegoes Posted October 31, 2008 Author Posted October 31, 2008 update: We've been spending most of our time together at work. we're more comfortable then I ever imagined we could be, and we have more fun together then we even did before things got bad. we seem to have done what we've needed to do in order to be in a position for things to work. My room mate who didnt even know we were speaking again came into work and we were together and after she left she texted me to tell me I had to talk to him because she's never seen me so happy as when I am with him. She said that jsut watching us together made it seem like we were on the path to working things out. this all seems wonderful except that work ends for the season tomorrow and we live far enough apart when I am at school to make it difficult for us to continue on as casually as we are now. once it ends we need to conciously make an effort to spend time together. I've never gone through a situaiton like this and I dont know how to deal. what should i do from here? please any advice or oppinions would be so helpful. feel like I'm running out of time to figure out how to proceed.
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