blondee17 Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Ok, Well I've been dating this divorced man we met online and hes been divorced for 2 years now...in the last month we have been through a lot as individuals and have been there for each other, His 9 year old daughter was moving with her mother to another country and this would be the first ever time he will be apart from his daughter, the day his daughter left he was real messed up about it and i tried being there for him and tried comforting him but i felt that he just pushed me away and blocked me from contacting him online yet the day before he was normal and when i called him to see how he was doing, he just said 'hello' when he answered the phone and didnt say a word for the entire half hour we were on the phone...I understand that it would be hard to realise that your child wont be down the road, and thats exactly why i wanted to be there for him...But im finding it hard to read him? I don't know if I should leave him and let him deal with it his way, or show that im supporting him and continue to get in contact and call?...What do i do????....PLEASE HELP?
carhill Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Leave him alone and let him process his situation. Check in from time to time if you're thinking about him. Time to time means every couple weeks, for example. Or, just wait and let him contact you. I'm sure he has your number Welcome to LS
prettybaby Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 I agree, leave him alone for a while. Losing a child in a custody situation like that is almost like when a family member dies. And I remember when my aunt passed away, I really didn't want to hear from anybody. It was extremely kind of people to want to support me and talk to me, but, in some situations you just want to be alone for a while and deal with feelings by yourself. Then it eventually gets better, and you're ready to open up again. I'm pretty sure he's going through a similar phase at the moment, so patience is key.
Author blondee17 Posted October 25, 2008 Author Posted October 25, 2008 Awww thanks guys Wow i Love this site!!! But yeah I knew that was the answer I needed advice and confirmation and you just confirmed it for me..THANKS...I shall update you all on what happens :-)
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