Author Star Gazer Posted October 26, 2008 Author Posted October 26, 2008 She's just a paranoid person who needs to lighten up a bit. Oh really? What makes you say that? This is probably someone Star knows AND likes. Someone I know? Turns out, yes. Someone I like? Absolutely not. Can I point out that nowhere has Star said she thought he was a stalker - that was just one of the possibilities she floated for discussion. Precisely.
whichwayisup Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 Someone I know? Turns out, yes. Someone I like? Absolutely not. Who is it? Anyway, tell him to stop calling you or just ignore him completely.
vonerik012 Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 From reading many of your threads, do you surround your self with incredibly immature people? Or do people just want to mess with you? I mean just by reading the subject title I guessed the poster..
Author Star Gazer Posted October 26, 2008 Author Posted October 26, 2008 From reading many of your threads, do you surround your self with incredibly immature people? You never read what I write. Ever. Read above. This is someone I know, but NOT someone I like. I avoid interaction with this person. Therefore, how would I be surrounding myself with the likes of him?
Author Star Gazer Posted October 26, 2008 Author Posted October 26, 2008 Who is it? Anyway, tell him to stop calling you or just ignore him completely. Someone I met a long time ago. We don't get along, so I'm not sure why he'd even think I'd ever be interested in socializing with him.
LoveDeluxe78 Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 This is probably someone Star knows AND likes. If it was someone she LIKED, I highly doubt she wouldn't have his number programmed on her phone!
LoveDeluxe78 Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 Someone I met a long time ago. We don't get along, so I'm not sure why he'd even think I'd ever be interested in socializing with him. Some people just don't get hints and they think the passage of time makes you feel differently about them! The fact that his number wasn't even programmed onto your phone should give him the point! So did he stop or is he continuing to bother you?
allina Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 If it was someone she LIKED, I highly doubt she wouldn't have his number programmed on her phone! Yes, Star stated that it was not someone she liked a few posts up. I assumed it was an old friend or a guy she met a couple times because he had her phone number and because it seemed like he was trying to be cute and playful. I thought that was more probable than someone she didn't even like or speak to, but it turned out I was incorrect.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 Ladies, imagine this: Your cell phone rings. You don't recognize the number. A man leaves a message, a voice you don't recognize. He doesn't identify himself. Instead, he just says, "Hey Star Gazer, I know this is last minute as you probably already have plans for tonight, but I'd like to take you to dinner tonight if you're free. Give me a call back when you get this." You text him: "Who is this?" Him: "LOL Dinner tonight?" You: "No, seriously... Who is this?" Him: "A long lost friend. Be playful for a minute..." You: "I'm not playful with strangers." Him: "I'm no stranger. Call me." You: "You're not saved in my phone and I don't recognize your voice, so I must not know you." Him: "That's too bad. We'll figure out a time to get together for dinner when you call back." You: "Why would I call someone back I don't know and who refuses to identify himself? This is really childish." Him: "Was meant to be playful. Sorry to bother you." Then nothing else. What's your next move, if any? You don't make a 'next move'. This doesn't even qualify as "harrassment" (as it is not "repeated and unwanted"). You wait for a 2nd contact to happen, and if ever it does you tell them not to contact you any further. If on the other hand you are intrigued and interested in who the person is, then choose a CROWDED spot in which to meet them (perhaps a shopping mall food court or the like). *** we sorta need clarity about whether they are someone who knows your real name, and referenced you with your real name, OR whether they actually said "Star Gazer".*** Hard to know what you should think if indeed it is someone from LoveShack.
Meet 4 Coffee Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 It was TanBark! She had a one-nighter with him and he then dumped her!
muse08 Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 Honestly that sounds like one hell of an adventure. If you're the adventurous type I'd go just to see who it was. If it's someone you know and like decently, eat a free meal. If not, get out and go do something else. If you're not the adventurous type than just let it go. oh and PS: if I did go I'd make sure I had some way to protect myself or something along those means. >>>i wouldn't go. that person is most likely reading these posts...if they have your number it's gotta be someone you went out with b4 or an ex who knows about the sites where you use the handle "stargazer". someone who you may have not given much attention to... definitely save the number. you CAN trace cell phone numbers to a name and address. this wouldn't be funny at all to me...
Author Star Gazer Posted October 27, 2008 Author Posted October 27, 2008 It was TanBark! She had a one-nighter with him and he then dumped her! That is hardly what happened, at all. You're obviously a long-time poster to even know that TB and I went out on a date...like...1.5 years ago. What a coward you are to not use your "real" handle.
JamesM Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 You're obviously a long-time poster to even know that TB and I went out on a date...like...1.5 years ago. What a coward you are to not use your "real" handle. This is one of those posts to ignore. Personally, as a LT poster, I was not aware of this fling. Now I am. As for the almost stalker, do you consider this guy "dangerous?" Or was he just trying to get a date with you?
Author Star Gazer Posted October 27, 2008 Author Posted October 27, 2008 This is one of those posts to ignore. Personally, as a LT poster, I was not aware of this fling. Now I am. As for the almost stalker, do you consider this guy "dangerous?" Or was he just trying to get a date with you? Ugh. Please don't refer to ONE date/hangout - no sex! - as a "fling." It was an entertaining, drunk karaoke night followed by a hungover morning on a couch. I'd hardly call that a fling or anything that even needs to be brought up by old posters posing as someone new.
Ocean-Blue Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 I personally would've found the texts to be amusing. It's all fun until you realize the person who is texting you is someone you're not interested in...then you get grossed out and the word "creepy" enters. I don't consider any of it stalking (if it was a guy who was innocently texting you, attempting to be mysterious). However, if it was someone you rejected in the past, then it's questionable behaviour. Our responses are totally coloured by who it is we think we're talking to, aren't they? If he's cute and sexy, then of course, bring it on! If it's a little troll, then, "no thanks, you creep!"
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