becky410 Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Well, more looking for opinions than asking a specific question! My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year and a half. He's 21 I'm 20. (We are both mature, though-he works full time, I go to school fulltime and work part time.) We have a unique relationship right now...we live 45 mins apart. We spend 3-4 nights out of the week together..I have my own toothbrush and clothes etc at his place. We have been through plenty in our year and a half--I really don't want to get into it specifically here, but we are definitely very close. He is a no b.s. kinda guy and I am prety confident he feels the same. He is getting a house next year. I live with my parents. Like I said I spend about 3-4 nights a week at his house, which will most likely continue, if not increase, when he gets his house. I feel we are ready to move in together due to all this . (And I'd rather find out now than later whether or not we are capable of living together!) He is terrified of the stigma or "label" of living together. I personally think we are, and will be, PRACTICALLY living together anyways...what do I do? Talk to him about it? Wait on him to ask me? Thanks guys
Phoenix11 Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Just my opinion, but I would wait until he asks. He may want to experience living on his own in his new house for awhile until he invites you to move in with him.
aubree1982 Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Hmmm, living together. I've lived with 2 boyfriends in the past and after this last one I said I would never do it again because of splitting up 'our' stuff etc. But, now that I've over it I have the same mind set as before, that I would never marry someone without living with them first. As for your situation, I think since it will be 'his' house he needs to ask you to move in. Sure, you can start a conversation about it and so you know where he stands. But if he says no he doesn't want you to, then you have to repect it and just tell him that whenever he is ready for you to move him all he has to do is ask. You two are both pretty young, so you shouldn't be in any rush.
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