alskdjfhg Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Hello everyone! I'll try to make this concise (and maybe fail...? haha) There's a girl I really like, but I'm not sure what she thinks of me. I had class with her last year and this year we are in Europe with a group of 30 from our school together for 6 months (we're 3 months in). Here is a an analysis (ridiculously detailed, I know) of some seemingly relevant (to me) interactions that we have had. I saw her over the summer (before leaving) and my mom said that she could "see in her eyes" that this girl liked me. One time, at a bar, someone asked me about my girlfriend and I said that I was single. This girl (who was really drunk, though) then said "I'm single, too!" I've heard her complain about being single a few times this trip. I'm not sure that she's ever been in a relationship--I actually strongly doubt it--and I've only been in one myself, so I don't really know what I am doing. THEN LAST WEEK, a bunch of strange things happened (some good, some bad) (1) She said that she didn't want to go out because everyone was drunk, someone said that I hadn't had anything, and she looked at me, looked at her other friend who didn't want to go, and said that if I'm going maybe they should go. (2) We went to a bar the next night. I was drinking a little. She asked my if she should, too, and I advised her not to, so she did not. We sat next to each other and talked for an hour or so, beginning basically with her asking me to describe myself and me asking the same after. She sat excessively close next to me, with her legs crossed in such a way that they were pressing up against mine. We both smiled a lot and made eye contact often. But I think maybe she's like that to everyone? We shared a taxi home. (3) The next day, a bunch of stuff went wrong in an activity 6 of us had planned--there were delays, etc. It was a pain. She kept saying how great it was that it had happened to us, because we were so easygoing unlike many other people. (4) That night we went clubbing and she kissed a random guy. The next day, she was really defensive about it, telling one friend "I didn't kiss him. he kissed me." we were all a little drunk that night and I didn't really talk to each other. (5) That next day, even though a group of like 6-7 of us chilled together for the day, walking, etc. the two of us didn't really talk. The one thing I can never do is just bring up random things to talk about. And when I bring up other things, related to what we are doing, it can get kind of boring. (6) Last night, about 20 of us went to a bar together, and we sat next to each other. Again we only talked a little bit. She had added me on Facebook and asked how we weren't friends before. I told her that I don't add anyone and she said she's usually the same way, but she made an exception. She also lied, because she said that she didn't even realize that we weren't friends before. She had to have noticed because she tags all of her (many) photos and I am in some of them and am the only person not-tagged in them. (7) Dancing--I never do it with her. Ever. We don't even try. I do one of two things. I just have fun with the music and moving (looks horrible, but is fun) or I have people teach me, because by the end of the trip I'd like to be a good dancer. And I'm improving. She told me not to have her teach because she can't dance either (blatant lie). She also shared her drink with me. I'm not sure how drunk she was but I was completely out of it. I would I don't really know what any of that means, but it all seems potentially relevant. In general, we also have class together, but normally just smile and say hi there too. One of the things that concerns me also is that I a lot of the time (somewhere between one and two thirds of the time) I am under the influence of alcohol when I talk to her (even though usually not actually drunk). I don't want (a) to depend on alcohol to talk to her or (b) her to think that I do. ANY advice at all would be greatly appreciated! Thanks so much!
Author alskdjfhg Posted October 24, 2008 Author Posted October 24, 2008 anyone?? i'm going out soon and she will be there and i'm super-stressed because i have no idea what to do, even though i know that either way she would prefer that i be my normal, relaxed self.
Char.isma Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 You can tell a lot from a girl's eyes and if this girl is touching you and your mom can tell in her eyes, it sounds like you have a very good shot. Now just get your ass off this forum and go talk to her and take her on a date. And I wouldn't worry about alcohol if she is drinking too.
prettybaby Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Could there be any more alcohol involved in this mess? It sounds like she might have a crush on you, but I really would stop reading into details so much. Try to make more physical contact (touching her arms, hands, etc) whenever possible. Even if just jokingly. Basically any chance you get to. Also, try to talk to her a little more. Ask her how she feels about different things or situations. Girls love when guys seem to care about how they feel. At least I do lol And it makes for more interesting conversations than boring general stuff.
Author alskdjfhg Posted October 25, 2008 Author Posted October 25, 2008 Re-phrase part 2 to this; it's more accurate: She sat RIGHT next to me (we were on a bench-like thing), even though there was enough room for her to have scooted over. Then she had he legs slightly crossed so that they rubbed against me for the whole conversation. Even when I had to re-adjust, she moved her legs back to that super-close position. We both made eye contact and were smiling for most of the night. also--prettybaby--this girl and i are clearly in the bottom third of our group for alcohol consumption; we're pretty tame.
mental_traveller Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 Why not ask her out then? No one ever got a date by sitting around on their ass doing nothing.
prettybaby Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 Exactly. Make more physical moves. In my experiences, I've generally ended up with guys who made more physical moves than those who tried to come up with the right things to say lol The leg thing you just described is basic attraction behavior. I wouldn't read too much into it in terms of deep feelings and such, but she clearly finds you attractive.
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