gummybear Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 This is my first time doing such a thing (unless one of em flakes on me last minute). The plan is that I'm meeting one tomorrow for lunch and the other one for dinner for the first time in person, both I met from match.com. Um, ok, any tips from someone who's done it before? What do I do if the afternoon guy asks what I'm doing later at night...and when I meet with the night guy, what do I do if he asks me what I did in the afternoon? With my inexperience, I might end up losing BOTH guys LOL.
laRubiaBonita Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 for lunch guy, just tell him that you already have plans for the evening. you do not have to specify.... tell him you are going out with a girl friend or something. and other dude just tell him you were shopping thay day. you do not owe them specifics yet.
flc Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Just don't enjoy the afternoon guy so much that you extend it and blow off the evening guy. That would be bad.
Author gummybear Posted October 24, 2008 Author Posted October 24, 2008 for lunch guy, just tell him that you already have plans for the evening. you do not have to specify.... tell him you are going out with a girl friend or something. and other dude just tell him you were shopping thay day. you do not owe them specifics yet. Oh gosh, I've never had to lie before on a date, plus I'm not good at lieing. Im iffy to whether I'm up for this dating more than one person at a time thing. I'm semi-interested in both guys, which has never happened to me before until now.
carhill Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 No need to lie. You have other plans. At this stage, a gentleman isn't entitled to know about a lady's plans. This is called respect. It separates the men from the boys. Enjoy your dates!
manugeorge Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Oh gosh, I've never had to lie before on a date, plus I'm not good at lieing. Im iffy to whether I'm up for this dating more than one person at a time thing. I'm semi-interested in both guys, which has never happened to me before until now. Just go and have a good time. You don't know either guy yet, for all you know, this could very well be your first and last dates with them so I wouldn't stress it too much if I were you. Back in my online dating days, I scheduled as much as 3 dates in one day. In this case though, I call them "meet and greets", and we only meet for a quick cup of coffee to put a face to the name, and then we go from there. Some of those lasted for 10 minutes, some for hours.
nysugarlips Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Oooooh have fun! goodluck! Keep us posted!
Author gummybear Posted October 24, 2008 Author Posted October 24, 2008 I'm starting to feel a bit nervous, like I'm about to do something wrong and against my nature LOL. I prob should of at least scheduled them on different days hahah. But ok, what if I say 'I got dinner plans tonight' with afternoon guy and he asks me 'oh cool, who you going with?'....THEN what do I do? I mean, what if they both ask for specifics!?!?! I can't just say 'oh, I can't tell you' hahahaha
GroupFitness Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 aaah, quit being so dramatic. Seriously, it's not that deep. "I have plans" is a sufficient enough answer and if either one of them is going to be rude and ask for specifics, then you say "I am meeting a friend for coffee, dinner, whatever". That's not a lie
Lizzie60 Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 This is my first time doing such a thing (unless one of em flakes on me last minute). The plan is that I'm meeting one tomorrow for lunch and the other one for dinner for the first time in person, both I met from match.com. Um, ok, any tips from someone who's done it before? What do I do if the afternoon guy asks what I'm doing later at night...and when I meet with the night guy, what do I do if he asks me what I did in the afternoon? With my inexperience, I might end up losing BOTH guys LOL. Ooohhh come on.. as if the night guy will ask you what you did that afternoon.. geezz .... and if he's that nosey.. tell him you were with friends.. If the afternoon one is interested and asks you if you're free that night.. you said you already had something planned.. period.. no need to add anything more..
Author gummybear Posted October 26, 2008 Author Posted October 26, 2008 I went on both dates and I'm not interested in either of them .
carhill Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 Don't be sad. You went. You did it. It was one day. There will be other days, you know, like today OK, what's on tap for today?
monkey00 Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 I wouldn't worry about it too much. Considering that it's online dating, most if not all are probably already aware of the potential of dating more than one person at once. For all you know, the guys could be doing the same.
Shygirl15 Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 I went on both dates and I'm not interested in either of them . Of course you aren't Gummy, you didn't even give yourself time focus on each one of these guys individually. 2 dates in a day?? What, are you going to die tomorrow or something??
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