Phoenix11 Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 ...for a wonderful weekend. Would this bother you? I am annoyed by it. Grrrr
tanbark813 Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 It would not bother me in the least. Why does it bother you? Would you rather he sent one saying he had a shytty time?
Geishawhelk Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 I would love that! Why are you annoyed? Because it's an e-card and not a hallmark-in-an-envelope card?
Author Phoenix11 Posted October 24, 2008 Author Posted October 24, 2008 I'm annoyed because he never calls. Seemed like he sent it out of obligation....I dunno.
nysugarlips Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 I think that was nice of him!! What do you mean he never calls?
norajane Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 A lot of guys aren't phone guys and don't like to hang on the phone all the time. I think the e-card was a nice thing to do.
Geishawhelk Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Isn't it amazing.... no really, I know you're mad but.... Just stop and think a minute. he never calls, which upsets you/makes you mad. Soooo.... He stops to think about you, takes the time to choose, and creates an e-card for you to show you he cares. And it pisses you off. I know there must be a whole lot more to this but on the face of it, it kinda looks as if you're looking a gift-horse in the mouth, and he can't win..... Some guys 'do' this, others don't. Other guys 'do' that, and some only do 'that' seldom...... People aren't perfect. We can't mould everyone to our ideal, and occasionally, no matter how much we drop hints, it doesn't get through no matter what. But he sent you something to say thanks for a wonderful evening. And you, instead of thinking "oh, geesh! That was nice and unexpected!" you get ticked off. I hope you haven't told him this!!
prettybaby Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Wow, I can feel the love through my screen Why does it annoy you? And why is he your boyfriend?
Geishawhelk Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Out the blue, my partner brought home two bunches of flowers.... last ones on the stall... the guy was packing up.... my guy bought them at half-price..... I'm thrilled. I don't care the stuff behind it, I have some beautiful flowers in my room!
aubree1982 Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 I'd say an e-card would be better than calling. A phone call is easy, you just pick up the phone and talk....but with an e-card he probably put lots of thought in picking out the perfect one and deciding what to say, you also know he's thinking about you. I think you can still be annoyed that he doesn't call but you shouldn't be annoyed at the e-card.
Fraggle Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Would this bother you? I am annoyed by it. Grrrr It wouldn't bother me if your BF sent me an e-card. I might be confused, but not annoyed.
Author Phoenix11 Posted October 24, 2008 Author Posted October 24, 2008 You all all correct...it was a nice gesture. The first thing that bothered me is that he didn't sign it "love"....just his name. I would think if he had such a wonderful weekend he would have aleast signed it "love". We spoke earlier this week and he asked if I received his card. I replied with how thrilled I was to receive a message from him and how it made my day. He has no hint I was slightly miffed. I guess there are underlining issues that causes me to feel this way about him....ie: he's been on IM all day since 8:00 this morning chatting up a storm and hasn't attempted to chat with me.....grrrr. I know he cares, but part of me feels like a "filler" ....the girl to fill in the time until something better comes along.
IrishCarBomb Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 I know he cares, but part of me feels like a "filler" ....the girl to fill in the time until something better comes along. Why don't you tell him this? There will be no improvement if you never tell him how you're feeling.
Author Phoenix11 Posted October 24, 2008 Author Posted October 24, 2008 Why don't you tell him this? There will be no improvement if you never tell him how you're feeling. I tried this very weekend to have a talk with him. He was clueless....he asked if I wanted to talk about Astrology, Astronomy, History, Economy, Biology, Entomology and everything else ending with a "y".
prettybaby Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 How old are you guys and how long have you been together?
silverbeamer Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Good question, pretty baby... I think once we find out how old the OP is it will put this whole thing into context. When we are 'younger' we start to point fingers and think that the other person in the relationship should be working harder or making more of an effort even if we aren't. I remember deciding I wasn't going to call a guy I was dating because he didn't call me for 2 days... seriously? When I grew up a little and found someone I truly cared about that stuff didn't matter. And the fact that he thanked you for a weekend through and e-card annoyed you seems pretty lame. He had fun and he showed his appreciation and you're pissy about it? Really? Maybe it wasn't the best method in your opinion but be thankful that he thought about it enough to sit at his computer and pick out a card for you. Would you have preferred the ever personal text to thank you?
Author Phoenix11 Posted October 24, 2008 Author Posted October 24, 2008 Good question, pretty baby... I think once we find out how old the OP is it will put this whole thing into context. When we are 'younger' we start to point fingers and think that the other person in the relationship should be working harder or making more of an effort even if we aren't. I remember deciding I wasn't going to call a guy I was dating because he didn't call me for 2 days... seriously? When I grew up a little and found someone I truly cared about that stuff didn't matter. And the fact that he thanked you for a weekend through and e-card annoyed you seems pretty lame. He had fun and he showed his appreciation and you're pissy about it? Really? Maybe it wasn't the best method in your opinion but be thankful that he thought about it enough to sit at his computer and pick out a card for you. Would you have preferred the ever personal text to thank you? I dunno...it just didn't feel right...sorta like thanking someone after having sex...would not like that much either. Btw...after chatting his butt off all day with who knows who, he finally attempts to IM me. I think I'm just pissed off at him for "GP". Did not like finding other girl's phone numbers in his house this past weekend and it has clouded my thought process....sorry.
silverbeamer Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Ok- now it comes out... you found a girl's phone number at his house and that's why you are overly aware of what he's doing or not doing to get your attention. Did you ask him about the number? Regardless of what excuse he comes up with don't forget the fact that he is the one that kept it. He met someone- she gave him her number- and HE kept it and brought it into his house. If he wasn't interested or didn't want it the number never would have made it out of the bar (or where ever he was when he got it...)
Author Phoenix11 Posted October 24, 2008 Author Posted October 24, 2008 Ok- now it comes out... you found a girl's phone number at his house and that's why you are overly aware of what he's doing or not doing to get your attention. Did you ask him about the number? Regardless of what excuse he comes up with don't forget the fact that he is the one that kept it. He met someone- she gave him her number- and HE kept it and brought it into his house. If he wasn't interested or didn't want it the number never would have made it out of the bar (or where ever he was when he got it...) Nope...didn't ask about the phone numbers. Didn't want to raise his awareness of the things he leaves lying around when I'm over his house. Maybe I should just focus on the nice things he does for me and with me...like sending a thank you e-card.
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