eugene3 Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Got a question..... when someone ends the relationship for whatever reason.... is it most likely they fee different about you and the realationship??? I mean lets face it if someone loves you they will try , try try, to prevent a breakup or a ending to a relationship. So what i am saying if someone leaves you its that they lost all love, some love, in some way. Ex fiance broke it off 7 months ago.. you all know the story...I am the one fighting for the enagement ring back after she took it back after calling it off.... yes its a confusing situation. She said she feels different about things and sees things differently now. As months went on apart it got worse from " i love you but it will not work" to " i dont know if i love you" to " i guess i don't love you anymore i feel nothing". Can someone help me on this. The whole time i begged , pleaded, cried to get her back and did not do the NC like i should have but i honestly don't think NC would have worked because there were 5-7 weeks at a time i did not see or talk to her. Has anyone on her been in my situation were the ex says she feels nothing and down the road things got better or she came back???? I have for the last month kept NC with her because i just am exhausted with it all and i honestly do not want to see or talk to her because it hurts to much. please give me your opinions....
Geishawhelk Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Wow, that was som "gettingitoffmychest" rant - ! Ok, let's see what we can do here..... ..... when someone ends the relationship for whatever reason.... is it most likely they fee different about you and the realationship??? That's a no-brainer, yes, it does. I mean lets face it if someone loves you they will try , try try, to prevent a breakup or a ending to a relationship. So what i am saying if someone leaves you its that they lost all love, some love, in some way. It varies from person to person, and of course on the circumstances. but if it's just a drifting, then there's the possibility that they love you but no longer 'that' way. or that they love you, but aren't IN love with you..... Ex fiance broke it off 7 months ago.. you all know the story...I am the one fighting for the enagement ring back after she took it back after calling it off.... yes its a confusing situation. She said she feels different about things and sees things differently now. As months went on apart it got worse from " i love you but it will not work" to " i dont know if i love you" to " i guess i don't love you anymore i feel nothing". Can someone help me on this. Her feelings are bound to detensify, just as yours, in panic mode, tend to intensify.... (no, I know 'detensify' isn't a real word, but it sounds appropriate....) So her feelings and emotions are bound to peter off. She's the one who began to feel differently in the first place, remember? The whole time i begged , pleaded, cried to get her back and did not do the NC like i should have but i honestly don't think NC would have worked because there were 5-7 weeks at a time i did not see or talk to her. No, wrong. trust me, it would have worked. NC always works, breaking NC is always a disaster. Ask anyone who's done either.... Has anyone on her been in my situation were the ex says she feels nothing and down the road things got better or she came back???? I warn you, this is just about as rare as rocking-horse doo-doos. I have for the last month kept NC with her because i just am exhausted with it all and i honestly do not want to see or talk to her because it hurts to much. please give me your opinions.... Keep going. It will start to hurt less. Take 5 days, count them off, and on the 6th day, give yourself a reward.... Well I don't know what! But do something for yourself!! Oh, and keep yourself busy. Come on here. Chat, vent, complain, ask questions - but do not REPEAT - DO NOT contact her!!
Author eugene3 Posted October 24, 2008 Author Posted October 24, 2008 Trust me the NC would have worked as far as her wanting to be friends sooner but she would have not come back. When someone falls out of love what can bring them back??? surley NC or anything can change that but her. I have to say when she broke it off her friends bought her a book to help her end it with me and it was called " they call it breaking up because it broken" and on top of that her mom did not want us together so everyone was in her face to end it and made her believe it was best. She said that " we would have never been truly happy and it would havenever lasted with us and you have to believe that" she also said that she did it for the both of us for our well being. She had help to get over me and its just not fair. 7 months and it still hurts alot. Its like she actually things she is doing me a favor ending us saying we had to many issues and it will never work. She mite be right but i was willing to work things out and she was not. Thats were the love part comes in. How can you lose love for somone like that???... I mean this girl cried if i was not by her side. insight please!
Author eugene3 Posted October 24, 2008 Author Posted October 24, 2008 geishawhelk... you always have been a very good helping people on this site. I have always seen you reply with helpful ideas and opinions for a lot of serious situations. What can you suggest and what is your opinion with my issue??? For whatever reason i feel sad today and just need the company and still confused about her and how she is and has acted. I don't want her back because its just to far to go back but i just need to understand what happened. I honestly for the past month felt different about this issue and gave up all hope with her. She confuses me. She stated recently that she has healed from this and moved on,,,, I said healed from what??? so what has she healed from... i think from the start she did not love me anymore but was confused not knowing why and what it was that she felt for me or the reasons... and now she does maybe thats why she was hurting.
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