julietxxx0 Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 My ex-husband and I split up a year ago after being together 7 years and married for 6. After 6 months of splitting up he wanted to meet to try and see if it was what we both wanted, but it never happened. This week we got the divorce and saw each other for the first time in a year. As we came out of court I got a text saying that he had regrets. This led me to agree to go round to his house. I have now been round 3 times. The first couple of times we talked about what went wrong and answered each others questions but never said about trying to reconcile. I have just been round for the third time and we ended up sleeping together. I am so confused and scared of feeling the pain that I felt when he left me. There is also 5 children involved. Two from my first marriage, two from his previous relationship and one together. None of the children know that we have met up. I am just so scared that he is using me for sex and am afraid that I am going to get hurt. Do you think that he wants just sex or more? Please help.
Geishawhelk Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 There's a funny little word people don't use enough in situations like this. It's the word "No." Try it a few times. He can't make you do anything you don't want to do. Stop this now before it gets really stupid. (It's already stupid, you don't want to go down the "really stupid" route, let alone the "WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU THINKING - ?!?" Way.....) Tell him next time it was just for old times' sake. You're not intending to do it again (don't get sucked in or drawn into discussing it or analysing it.) and now your divorce is through, he's going to be free to date and get it somewhere else - you certainly intend to! Take control, woman. Don't be a wimpy wuss.... last time you checked, whose body was it....? Yours? Then do the right thing and respect it - and yourself.
justanothergirl75 Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 I tried the whole having sex/relationship with my ex-husband after we had been divorced for 8 months. Well, It didn't work, but then I was just using him for sex and perhaps a small part of me wanted to try since we had just had a baby before we divorced. I came to the realization that wait we were divorced, he left me, and WTF was I doing...so I ended it. I think he is just trying to hold on now that everything is final and probably wants sex too. Be wise about your emotional future and end it now.
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