Dmoney28 Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 , Im really confused right now, and any input from LS friends would be a great help. Me and my Ex have been together for 3 1/2 years, she dumped me because of trust issues. I accepted that, and took responisbilty. I cant do that "friends" thing...hurts way to bad, and hinders healing. Anyway, she's the one whos says no contact "were not together anymore, we shouldnt talk". Ok i said take care, i'll miss you and love you , but i understand. Well the past month and a half she has contacted me, via calls or txts. Like at 12:00 in the morning telling me goodnight...you ok?....how the hell did all this ugly nightmare happen? ( first 2 weeks i explained in great detail, about my honesty issues...god i dont know any other way to explain my actions. There is only so many words in the english dictionary), then she txt's me about her day, what she is doing, etc etc. My question is why would she tell me NC on mutiple occasions, then break it by txting or calling me? Im hurting from this break up as well, how can i heal if she keeps breaking her no contact rule. after 6 days of NC, i was finally accepting we will never be together again..then she breaks it again. I love her...but this roller coaster is setting me back at day 1, i hate falling for false hope again and again, but i love her so much .im tired, i need some sleep. Why is she doing this? any input would be great
Geishawhelk Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 She's breaking up with you, but needs to know you still miss her, think of her, want to have her.... what better way of doing it than grabbing your attention? Turn your 'phone off at night. And really, block her off every way you can. delete every contact method you have, off your 'phone, computer everything..... She's breaking you up, but she can't believe this could be easy for you... surely not. And by dangling you on a string, she's right, huh? The scissors are in your left-hand pocket...... <snip>!
BCCA Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 She's lonely and being selfish, bottom line. She just doesnt want you to move on before she finds someone else, so shes hoping a few breadcrumbs here and there will keep you away from other girls until she doesn't need you anymore. Real sweet of her, huh? She told you to go NC because shes not going to be there when YOU need/want to talk, but that doesnt mean that she doesnt want you to be there for HER when it fits her needs. Basically, she wants to have her cake, eat it, too, and not give a crap where that leaves you. She asked for a breakup and NC, guess what? Give it to her.
Author Dmoney28 Posted October 23, 2008 Author Posted October 23, 2008 you might be right. She gets alot attention from guys (alot, she is quite pretty). But damn its hard...ok, i'll take the scissors...i'll try and cut..but she knows she's in my head. But you are right. I cant be a puppet.
Sysyphus28 Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 My ex called me a few weekends ago about three times and didn't leave a message each time. I didn't answer. It made me feel like totAL crap. She turned out to be one of the most selfish and crummy people I have ever met. I can't believe it sometimes. It has been a while with NC. It is getting easier to realize how awful she was to me. I was not perfect, but NO ONE deserves to be F-ed over like this.
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