Lady Bird Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 I’m a single/divorced parent of 2 teenagers (17 and 15) and have recently begun to date again. I am up front that I have children yet explain unless a serious longer term relationship should form I don’t believe in bringing or introducing the children at the dating stage. It was a polite and fair way of letting the men know they will not be meeting my children early on. One evening both my children had plans which gave me some free time. I called up a gentleman that I was interested in (1 previous date at that point) and we decided to go see a movie. We had gotten our goodies from the concessions, turned to leave and were immediately greeted with a “Hi, Mom!” as we came face to face with my oldest daughter J and her best friend T; both of them smiling so big I swear their faces had to hurt! My mouth was standing open; I glanced over to the poor fellow who had a deer in the headlights look. It could have ended quickly like that and been done but nooooo… J and T moved in for more fun, still smiling like angels. I stumbled through a quick round of introductions, T hugged me then stepped back and sweetly said “Ms. B, you did your hair, it looks great.” My daughter hugged me, sniffing as she pulled back and said “Wow, Mom you put on perfume, smells good” turned to the gentleman and stated “She means business, you better behave.” Thankfully, he was a great sport and understood what they were doing. He came back with some playful comments and we had some laughs. We exchanged some small talk, the girls bid him goodbye and gave me another hug (I took the opportunity to whisper threats of revenge to each of them) and we parted ways to go watch our movie. While I am no longer seeing this man (for other reasons, not because of this experience) it did teach me to say that I don’t believe in bringing or introducing my children during the dating stage but that doesn’t mean he won’t meet them. I’m still learning or should I say re-learning dating and it’s definitely a work in progress. Has anyone else had some interesting single/divorced parent dating experiences?
flc Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 The current women I am dating has a 21yo son and 2 daughters 17 and 23. Her older daughter helped her make her profile on match. When we met for coffee we found out later both girls hopped in the car and drove a round the coffee shop a few times to scope me out, I guess I got the thumbs up as we have been together for 3mos now. At my age most of the women I date have kids. I generally meet the kids by third or fourth date and the same with my kids 26yo son and 15yo daughter. I think once you meet someone who you feel you like and are comfortable with there is no reason to keep them hidden from the kids. I do find women seem to be more reluctant to introduce me to their sons than daughters for some reason? Now for staying over the night with the kids home, that is more tricky while we have done a few sneak in/out we have never had the kids see us in the morning waking up together.
amaysngrace Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Has anyone else had some interesting single/divorced parent dating experiences? No I don't but that was a cute story.
Author Lady Bird Posted October 24, 2008 Author Posted October 24, 2008 FLC - thank you for sharing! I haven't gotten to the point of being brave enough to bring anyone home yet or even to the point of anything past a little make out session. Still getting my feet wet in dating, I'm not a serial dater in fact far from it but I am enjoy the interactions of dating again and learning what I now like or dislike compared to when I was a teenager. Amaysngrace - thanks, I can laugh about it now but at the time...
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