RogueAC Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 I went out Saturday for a first date with a long time acquaintance. The plan was for casual drink in my neighborhood and then head to an informal engagement party for some friends. The date starts and I’m enjoying his company—he brought a bottle of wine, a few flowers and the like, greeted me at my door, etc-- we walk to the bar, his choice, for our drink. We arrive at the bar and as I open the door, guess who the first person I make eye contact with is? Yup, kids, you guessed right! It’s the current ex! (Ha!) I wave to the ex and I walk to the other side of the bar with my date. I’m internally shaken but doing my best to deal—hey at least I look great. We stay for our drink and on the way out I say hello to the ex, introduce my date, make a minute or two of small talk and roll out. Stop, the story gets better. The new date and I head over to the bar/restaurant for the engagement party. About an hour passes and I finally start to relax and enjoy my friends and my date. So, guess who walks in the bar? My previous ex (from very serious relationship about 3-4 years ago) (HaHa!). Dude heard about the engagement party for the friends and decided to stop by without an RSVP. I am comfortable [enough] around the previous ex that by the end of the night everyone was laughing about my extremely random luck. The new date was a stand-up guy through all of this drama, super gracious and awesome about the whole night. Just thought you might enjoy another bit of irony and a funny story from the days of my life…
CaliGuy Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Rogue, that's a great story. I probably wouldn't have gone out of my way to introduce my date to my current ex but that's just me. Otherwise I think you did a great job of handling yourself very well.
Author RogueAC Posted October 24, 2008 Author Posted October 24, 2008 Thanks for the thoughts CaliGuy. Running into him really affected me. This week has also been difficult because there are a lot of relationship memories. We met two years ago—yesterday, and last year—this week--we were meeting the families. I am trying not to dwell but sometimes I still miss him so much. If I am rather candid, I think I am hurting a lot more than I let on.
Author RogueAC Posted October 24, 2008 Author Posted October 24, 2008 Today is super harsh. I just found out that I will be getting a large pay cut at the first of the year. In the grand scheme of my industry, I am relieved that I am only getting a pay cut. I am just so frustrated because this cut is based solely on external factors that neither I nor my firm can control. I will need to make some definite lifestyle changes. I miss my ex so much today-- right now, at this very moment-- I can hardly find the words.
SRV Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 RogueAC, sorry to hear about your job, but count it as a blessing cause in these times we are living, it could have been worse. Who dumped who? Do the women really miss their exes?
Author RogueAC Posted October 24, 2008 Author Posted October 24, 2008 SRV—very true, with the current job market I’ll take a pay cut over a lay off. While it is frustrating, I am glad to find out now because I will have time to make changes. The cut won’t happen until 2009 so I have a few months to reevaluate my expenses and budget. For the relationship, I was dumped. I think it is natural for either sex to miss someone that they loved and shared a life with. So, yes to generalize, women miss their exes. I know that I certainly do.
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