V.Vixen Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Am I too picky? Are my standards just too high? Do I just live in too small of a town? I can't figure out why I can't find a guy who interests me beyond a second or third date. A long term boyfriend, or at least someone who I can call a boyfriend at all. I am attractive, have a good job, and think that I a HOOT! So what gives? Maybe I think too highly of myself and am really not all that I think I am and need to lower my standards a bit? Some insight? Why is it that everyone I know can easily get a significant other? I don't want to settle. I don't want to be with someone for the sake of being with someone because I like life now enough to not do that. I just want to know if it is me!
2sure Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Don't change a thing!!! Don't settle. I was happy for years, dating and having fun - but ultimately ended wondering - Where is my partner?? You havent met him yet. Its not you. Just keep looking!! Sounds like you are being proactive, not just waiting. And your picture shows a beautiful woman!
CaliGuy Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Am I too picky? Are my standards just too high? Do I just live in too small of a town? I can't figure out why I can't find a guy who interests me beyond a second or third date. A long term boyfriend, or at least someone who I can call a boyfriend at all. It would help if I knew what your criteria was for dating. I am attractive, have a good job, and think that I a HOOT! So what gives? Maybe I think too highly of myself and am really not all that I think I am and need to lower my standards a bit? Some insight? Why is it that everyone I know can easily get a significant other? Where are you meeting these guys? Bars? Clubs? Have you joined a hobbiest club? Have you sparked up conversations with guys at the gym? Has a guy caught your attention at the gas station or grocery store? See, opporunities to meet people are everywhere. Online dating is great, but my best luck has been talking to people in person where one's personality is easier to discern. I don't want to settle. I don't want to be with someone for the sake of being with someone because I like life now enough to not do that. I just want to know if it is me! One piece of advice that has served me well is this. BE PATIENT. Don't be in a hurry to be in a relationship. The harder you are looking to BE in one, the longer it will take to find the right one. Give us an idea of your criteria so we can help ya out.
prettybaby Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Are you originally from where you're currently living? Or did you move to your current location later on in life? I know from experience that some areas are just doomed as far as dating goes. Not necessarily because of the guys themselves, but because I didn't share the same background and basically had nothing in common with them which didn't make them attractive to me. Now, I obviously don't know you or anything about your background / location or the guys you're dating. So your question is basically impossible to answer lol
Author V.Vixen Posted October 23, 2008 Author Posted October 23, 2008 criteria: -funny -intelligent enough to carry on a conversation and read and write correctly. -attractive, but doesn't need to be "HOT". I sometimes even prefer a "cute" guy to a hot guy. -self supporting -someone who respects me and treats me the way I think I deserve to be treated I have lived here my entire life, and it is a TINY town. I plan on moving next year, to a town that is a little bigger. Even though I have lived here forever, I still find myself to be different than most of the people that are here. I have done the online thing, but I have also met men at work and in everyday scenarios. However, I find that I don't get approached often in every day scenarios and I have to make that initial contact.
CaliGuy Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 criteria: -funny -intelligent enough to carry on a conversation and read and write correctly. -attractive, but doesn't need to be "HOT". I sometimes even prefer a "cute" guy to a hot guy. -self supporting -someone who respects me and treats me the way I think I deserve to be treated I have lived here my entire life, and it is a TINY town. I plan on moving next year, to a town that is a little bigger. Even though I have lived here forever, I still find myself to be different than most of the people that are here. I have done the online thing, but I have also met men at work and in everyday scenarios. However, I find that I don't get approached often in every day scenarios and I have to make that initial contact. Sounds like your criteria is fine. Perhaps moving to a bigger city would open up your dating pool a tad. Honestly I think your best bet is to join a hobby club (biking, climbing, scuba, Church group, etc). Meeting people in person is a lot better than scouring the internet. Chemistry can't be underestimated. I would also suggest avoiding dating men from work. That's another can of words all together
Author V.Vixen Posted October 23, 2008 Author Posted October 23, 2008 Sounds like your criteria is fine. Perhaps moving to a bigger city would open up your dating pool a tad. Honestly I think your best bet is to join a hobby club (biking, climbing, scuba, Church group, etc). Meeting people in person is a lot better than scouring the internet. Chemistry can't be underestimated. I would also suggest avoiding dating men from work. That's another can of words all together The online dating thing... what you are saying has proved to be accurate so far. I have even had hour long phone conversations with men from match,com and then when we met in person it totally flopped. It is really dissapointing when that happens!! ok, about the work thing.. I really try not to "dip my pen in company ink", but my time is limited, so it is very hard to find the time outside of regular daily life to meet quality men. I try not to "look" for a relationship, but, frankly, that is hard sometimes.
joshaz Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 -funny -intelligent enough to carry on a conversation and read and write correctly. -attractive, but doesn't need to be "HOT". I sometimes even prefer a "cute" guy to a hot guy. -self supporting -someone who respects me and treats me the way I think I deserve to be treated w00t. 4 out of 5. Do I get a consolation prize?
Author V.Vixen Posted October 23, 2008 Author Posted October 23, 2008 w00t. 4 out of 5. Do I get a consolation prize? That depends.. which one are you missing?
joshaz Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 That depends.. which one are you missing? One? Oh sorry I meant I missed 4 out of 5... I got the looks one down no problem though.
Author V.Vixen Posted October 23, 2008 Author Posted October 23, 2008 sorry, no consolation prize may be granted if you have less than 3. It is in the official V.Vixen rule book, so there aren't any exceptions allowed!
ChickenAce Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 There are so many times I been told to do things the right way. Find a girl that is exactly the expectations my parents have of her with no regard to what I am attracted to or not attracted to whether it be mental emotional or physical. I think the right elements got to be there personally. And to know what stage your in. The younger you are looks come into play more, the older you are what you find attractive can change and experience wise as well. I think if you find someone thats got inside what you got and has got outside what you want, it helps. Theres no point dating just for appearance and theres no point just dating someone for a beautiful inside because unless all you want is companionship and no sex, its pretty pointless.
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