LADYGIRL Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Please help!! I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years now, and we have a mortgage. a while ago I slept with his friend, we made this a regular thing, we started to fall for eachother. we got found out and I called it off and convinced myself it was a mistake, I needed to mend things with my boyfriend as I hurt him so much, I hate to see him hurt. I love him very much, we get along fine, he's my best friend, but I dont feel attracted to him anymore, (I would never tell him this) I feel different about us now, I cant see us getting married, it just doesn't feel right anymore. Probably doesn't help that I'm still in touch with my lover, haven't seen him but he says he loves me and wants to be with me, I cant stop thinking about him, we've tried many of times to not speak anymore, and get on with our own lives, but it doesn't work, the more and more I think about him the more I want to be with him, and I can see us being togther, and we planned to many of times but I have backed out. It kills me to see my boyfriend getting hurt. I love him, but dont know if I'm in love with him. i dont know what to do and both want to be with me. please help.
lkjh Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Whenever someone begins an affair they go on a wild emotional ride and lose feelings for their SO. You can't gain those feelings back by staying in contact with the OM. In reality you don't sound like marriage material, you were banging your bf's friend and refuse to give him up. Your bf isn't thinking correctly right now, you should just separate and not speak to either man.
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