Shygirl15 Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Well, that would mean marriage then. But as soon as you come across someone that you think to be your "lifelong" partner....3 years...it's broken up..then what? I know. There're no guarantees. But at least I introduced my child to someone he'll see for 3 years than one that will last 2 months.
flc Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 I know. There're no guarantees. But at least I introduced my child to someone he'll see for 3 years than one that will last 2 months. How old is your child? For younger children I can understand this but for my kids who are older single and dating themselves I am just doing the same thing they are doing. They bring their gf/bf home for me to meet and I do the same.
Author Bells Posted October 24, 2008 Author Posted October 24, 2008 It can also be a major issue if they're real young and the parent has full custody. Kind of stinks that the mother can't drop the kids off at the father's place for the weekend where you 2 can be alone, you know?
Shygirl15 Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 How old is your child? For younger children I can understand this but for my kids who are older single and dating themselves I am just doing the same thing they are doing. They bring their gf/bf home for me to meet and I do the same. Oh, okay. That can work out well for you then. See, mine is only 5yrs old soo... need to be careful there, you know.. And while I have full custody, I have a full time nanny for him, so really there isn't much inconvenience when I go out dating apart from few guilty trips when I don't spend as much time with him.
Meet 4 Coffee Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 Even men do that. Check this out: Tons of men do that online, moreso than the women's add. It's a turnoff for me. I mean if you state that you have kids, you are stating that they are a part of your life. So why state all that other stuff?
carhill Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 I wonder what kills childless marriages that don't work?? Cats! ......
Art_Critic Posted October 25, 2008 Posted October 25, 2008 Kind of stinks that the mother can't drop the kids off at the father's place for the weekend where you 2 can be alone, you know? Yeah... that would really be her being a great Mom.. let's get rid of the child because there is something more important to do .. like a guy A baby sitter would be a better idea..
Author Bells Posted October 25, 2008 Author Posted October 25, 2008 Yeah... that would really be her being a great Mom.. let's get rid of the child because there is something more important to do .. like a guy A baby sitter would be a better idea.. Well, it's true....when you have partial custody, when it's the other spouses turn...that's when you can spend some alone time together, right?
flc Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 It can also be a major issue if they're real young and the parent has full custody. Kind of stinks that the mother can't drop the kids off at the father's place for the weekend where you 2 can be alone, you know? Lot's of reasons for this. In my case my ex lives 1000 miles away, no drop off for me. In her case she is a widow so no one to drop off for her. I think the mid teens are tough since they are a bit old for a sitter and too young to stay by themselves overnight.
Author Bells Posted October 26, 2008 Author Posted October 26, 2008 Lot's of reasons for this. In my case my ex lives 1000 miles away, no drop off for me. In her case she is a widow so no one to drop off for her. I think the mid teens are tough since they are a bit old for a sitter and too young to stay by themselves overnight. Heck, I figured you could leave teenagers at home...sometimes I check the age of the c hild...to see if they can at least operate a microwave.
Hotel Paradiso Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 I came across this profile...I'll edit it down to point out the main points. Profession: My 2 boys and< her job title> The Bio section "I am a single mom of 2 wonderful boys....<enter the rest of description" In the "What I like to do on a first date" describes she likes to have fun...lists hobbies...and....hey, she has "2 great boys" Do you think mentioning the fact she has "2 great boys" 3 times in the profile is a bit overdoing it? I think there had been debate about this before, but profiles like this probably scare men off...heck even men with kids....seems that you'll come dead last to her children and perhaps even spoil them? To be honest, this is why I think single parents should ONLY date single parents. They're the only people who are in the same scenario, can relate to the same things, have the same priorities, etc.
Shygirl15 Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 To be honest, this is why I think single parents should ONLY date single parents. They're the only people who are in the same scenario, can relate to the same things, have the same priorities, etc. You're very right, HP. This is why I don't pay attention to childless people no matter how mature they appear to be. And honestly, any childless person looking to have a normal dating relationship with someone with kids is bound to be dissapointed. I never dated guys with kids before I had my own.
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