Magister Mundi Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 So, the scenario: I've had my eye on this absurdly cute girl in my improv class at my community college for this entire term so far (so, 4 weeks of it), and apparently, she's had her eye on me. So yesterday, we're really hitting it off during class, and all seems peachy. Then, after class, I'm headed off to catch my bus, and she's headed off to the gym, which is on the way to the buses, and she kinda waits up for me and I sorta catch up with her (you know... the slightly awkward, "If it works it works" sort of thing). And that's where I run into a problem. We walk and talk a bit, but... well, I honestly don't know much about her, other than the fact that she's into acting and drama in general and seems to have an awesome mind and a great personality to go with her looks. Still, that doesn't help with small talk, especially when I'm bad at it in the first place. So we walk and talk, like I said, but it's... well, awkward, especially on my part, and we both quickly find ourselves running out of things to say. It's not even that far of a walk to our respective destinations. So, I end up just sort of feeling lame and quickly learn to dislike the taste of my foot in my mouth, she seems a little put off by the awkwardness of it all, and I end up having to literally run to catch my bus. So, in summary, we finally get a chance to talk and nothing really comes of it other than awkwardness, and I end up literally running away from her, even if it is to catch a bus. Not exactly the scenario I had been hoping for. So, tomorrow's a new day, and I'm going to be seeing her again in class. I really do want to get to know her better - she seems like she's totally my type as far as personality and intelligence goes, and if you throw on her looks she's a dream come true - and I'd like to try again in my efforts of getting to know her, and maybe, just maybe, getting her number and/or e-mail so we can get together sometime outside of school. So... how do I do it? I REALLY don't want a repeat of my last attempt... but it seems that either A) I need to learn the fine art of small talk with intelligent, pretty, and more than a little intimidating females or B) Find a way to avoid small talk entirely and still accomplish my goals of getting to know more about her or C) Figure out something else entirely (which maybe you fine people can help with). Suggestions?
Goss Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Best thing to do is talk about and find out about things you have in common. Ask here why she is taking the class? Has she been to any related events? Then ask her about herself...other interests, where she's from. Basically find things you have in common and then connect on those areas.
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