anarchy89 Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 I've been with my gf for 3.5 years now, LDR on and off for a year (due to Uni). When I started going out with her, I was 15 1/2, now 19. Last year, it was hard to keep in contact due to her Uni friends & work, but we met up every month or so. However, when we weren't together, it was difficult to get a conversation; she seemed distant and quiet, or disinterested. Looking back, when we were together, it seems like I was almost an accessory - carry her bags, take her to things she wanted to do, pleasure her - yet hardly ever would she be there for me. I just feel like have been neglected and treated like a pack-mule rather than a bf - it always seems to be me making an effort to be romantic - or even talk to her! My Uni friends and my family all think I should have ended the relationship a long time ago, but I kept waiting for things to get better. The thing is, I've met someone at work back home, who I keep in contact with regularly. I'm not strictly interested in anything other than friendship, but she is always so happy to talk to me or see me, that it makes me wonder why my gf doesn't act the same way. However, I know that if I talk to my gf about this, she'll get upset, promise to change, and then never will (or will for about a month before things go back to normal). I'm going up to see her this weekend, just wanted advice on what to do - whether to end or stay etc.? Thanks in advance, reply if you need more details!
Geishawhelk Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Oh come on! What do you think you should do...? Stay with a GF that treats you like a pack mule, says she'll change but it's only temporary and is miles away anyway - or close it down and get out and meet new people, make new friends and get on with life.......? Hmmmmmmm......... let me think.......... That's a hard one.....!!
i11 Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 You have to decide it on your own. Ask yourself, you really want to quit or rather stay It's like a gamble, since you two have been in less contact already, you're no longer familiar with each other's life details, you dont really know what she is thinking, so the choices of quit and stay could both result in a loss.
Island Girl Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 She is taking you for granted and to tell you the truth it sounds like you have allowed yourself to become a doormat for her. When that happens the relationship doesn't last anyway. It just winds down to a painful dragged out end. Cut your losses and move on to the girl that is excited to see you and be around you and don't allow yourself to be a doormat in any relationship ever again.
amylulu Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 You have to ask yourself the question, "Can I see myself happy with this person in five years if they haven't changed?" I once was in a relationship like that and I kept a journal of my days with him. After about a month I went back and read what I wrote. It gave me a great way of looking at the relationship and seeing how unhappy I was but thought I was happy. You have to figure out what makes you happy and that should be you choice you have to make.
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